When I first started my PCOS journey I was a broke college student with no insurances. I didn't know what the heck was wrong with me, I just knew SOMETHING was wrong. And I could not afford to see an endless doc parade and in the early 90's there wasn't as much info online.
I made up my mind that while I had to wait to be in a better position to seek a dx, I could do the small things I could do. So I started walking and swimming in the apartment pool. That was free. And I started reducing my animal foods -- not only are those more expensive, those also have a higher hormone load. And eating more produce wasn't going to kill me. So less animal food so when I got it I could get better quality that was hormone free, more produce, less junk. I did not have a scale so I don't know how heavy I was but I was a size 22. I got down to a size 14... still with no dx.
I married spouse at the time we did so I could get on his insurance as his wife. Then I started seeking the dx.
So don't lose heart for yourself. You can still do some things for your self care even if you have to hang on a bit on the dx front.
For him? He needs to straighten up. Your having PCOS is NOT a reason for being disrespectful to his partner!
Metformin in my area is free. So if you are one of the PCOS/IR people and need that, it can be very low cost. When we were broke students we both went to Planned Parenthood for basic health care needs like a physical, birth control, etc.
I continue with BCP just to keep me more stable. Off it I am terrible. I know it isn't a cure for PCOS, but for my plan it helps some. I don't want to be on it forever, but in those broke years, being more stable with my moods and making sure no kids popped up by mistake was crucial. We could not afford more responsibilities or mouths to feed!
You may want to consider reducing grains in your diet -- I know that is hard when the cheapest foods are grain based -- bread, rice and pasta and all. For some PCOS people changing to brown instead of white is enough to regain control. For others limiting ALL the grain food down has to be considered. But see where you can shop and cut corners in the budget. Buy in bulk. Crockpot, freeze -- where you can cook more efficiently. Take a good multivitamin. That's not expensive to do. Skip junk food, sweets, sodas. Have more water to drink. Plain unsweet tea.
You know how to do it. Really. You might not know ALL the PCOS nutrition stuff, but the simple obvious stuff like that you know how to do and you CAN do.
If he is actually depressed, get him to a doc for his depression.
If he's just using your PCOS to cop out, have a serious talk about finding job. And cutting out the blahblahblah about it.
If he doesn't shape up, consider your next steps. Because if he does not respect you and is rude to you now, with PCOS? If the magic cure came tomorrow and none of us had PCOS any more? It isn't about the PCOS. It is about his lack of respect and manners.
I don't know either of you well, and I'm hoping this is a couple spat you can work through, and you will both be in a healthier relationship balance.
But if there's more to this story (and you do not have to share it here), and this bad behavior is CHRONIC and he always treats you bad? Know there are other resources out there for you.
http://speakoutloud.net/wp-content/u...urphy-2010.pdf
This month is domestic violence awareness month. Emotional abuse is real abuse and it "counts" as hurtful. Check the list for other red flags.
GL!
A.