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Old 02-25-2014, 03:54 AM   #1
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Ive started the program recently, done step 1-4 with sponsor...But all the while I am still stuffing face...my sponsor says you do not have to fight with willpower in this program, but so far is feels like I am waiting to begin another diet.....How did you guys start? Did it feel like a diet in the beginning for you, because it is to me...
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Old 03-04-2014, 06:23 PM   #2
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Have you tried just praying for the willingness to try? That's helped me when I get myself in a place where I'm stuck. The honest, deep-down truth is that I'm not willing yet. And trying to create action where there is no willingness is putting the horse before the cart.
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Old 03-12-2014, 02:12 PM   #3
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I'm feeling the same way Davina. I just joined 3fc , hoping to get support and find others in the same place I am. I feel like I am stuffing my face with everything before I start a diet or change my eatting habits and lifestyle. I am an emotional eater. My mother n law lives with us, so I am eatting all the time. I have over 100lbs to lose and I really want to run. I feel like "why bother" "you'll just quit like you do every other time. I have to change and I know I have to change. I need to for me and my health. I need help. There I said it.
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Old 03-13-2014, 06:41 PM   #4
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Hi , thanks so much for replies.

I feel like the pieces have started to come together slowly.
I find myself wanting to try to eat cleaner just out of curiousity to see if compulsion will die down when removing addictive substances, but it was only recently I even gave cooking some effort so a few weeks of doing steps and still totally bingeing.
Alison did you do 10 step yet? (if you are on any of the email loops we could exchange email addresses for support if you want, just pm me.)
I reached step 10 and feel like this was the practical step I was looking for that I could apply in daily life. Although I am still confused by it, my sponsor reminded me this is not a program we apply intellectually but we feel our way through. If you are not used to living in a spiritual place it will take practice until one day hopefully it falls in to place.
Im by no means eating perfect, just yesterday i overate and binged on trigger foods. but there are a few differences I am noticing. First is that I am not obssesed with scale, I will not even look at the scale likely until a few weeks. Second after the slip yesterday and also starting off badly today with no breakfast I didn't feel like "the diet is over" but just that it was another day to get it right( or moreso another meal to get it right)
they say "don't quit before the miracle happens' so I am hanging on to that and I hope you guys will too.
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Old 03-16-2014, 03:36 PM   #5
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Hi , thanks so much for replies.

I feel like the pieces have started to come together slowly.
I find myself wanting to try to eat cleaner just out of curiousity to see if compulsion will die down when removing addictive substances, but it was only recently I even gave cooking some effort so a few weeks of doing steps and still totally bingeing.
Alison did you do 10 step yet? (if you are on any of the email loops we could exchange email addresses for support if you want, just pm me.)
I reached step 10 and feel like this was the practical step I was looking for that I could apply in daily life. Although I am still confused by it, my sponsor reminded me this is not a program we apply intellectually but we feel our way through. If you are not used to living in a spiritual place it will take practice until one day hopefully it falls in to place.
Im by no means eating perfect, just yesterday i overate and binged on trigger foods. but there are a few differences I am noticing. First is that I am not obssesed with scale, I will not even look at the scale likely until a few weeks. Second after the slip yesterday and also starting off badly today with no breakfast I didn't feel like "the diet is over" but just that it was another day to get it right( or moreso another meal to get it right)
they say "don't quit before the miracle happens' so I am hanging on to that and I hope you guys will too.
Yea!!! That was the real turning point for me. When I realized that when I f-up, I can start again in that moment. I don't have to wait for the next morning. I don't have to beat myself up. I just pick up where I should be in my food plan and start eating sanely again.
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Old 05-02-2014, 12:31 AM   #6
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I'm a real sick puppy. I a.m. so desperate. I have been trying to stop compulsive eating for years. I just found out that was the word I needed to know to get the right help. So here I am. I like to keep it short so if you talk back I won't drag on.
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Old 05-02-2014, 06:47 PM   #7
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Hi Martha - you posted in the section about the 12 step program called Overeaters Anonymous (like Alcoholics Anonymous). If you are not interested in that program and need support with your compulsive eating then check out the threads directly below. Knowing and admitting you have a problem is a great positive step. Many want to blame circumstance etc. Read the topics below and jump in with your questions, feelings, concerns. Welcome!
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Old 05-04-2014, 01:30 AM   #8
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Thank you Tommy. I did. Look and behold. It's just what I've been looking for. I'm so glad we all speak the same language here!

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Old 05-05-2014, 01:01 PM   #9
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well I am struggling with the spiritual program I have to admit.
my food is ok for now but I feel like im on a diet and hungry often.

i want to experience the promises in the Big Book, not just another diet.
I think maybe once I start sponsoring, hopefully things will get better.
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Old 06-20-2014, 10:58 PM   #10
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I started this program when I talked to my sponsor from a different program about my ed. She was also in oa,so she guided me through the process,I created an eating plan and abstained from eating compulsively one he at a time. I was a member of aa for years,and not drinking was harder for me than not eating. I learned about abstinence in that program. Recovering from my craving to drink prepared me for this program.
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