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Originally Posted by Aidanqm
I've been there, done that. Here's exactly how I stopped my binge eating problem.
The short & sweet (practical) run down
- Quit starving yourself: You only need to reduce calories by 300-400 lower from your maintenance level if you are doing appropriate cardio. Make sure you are eating nutritious, whole foods: animal & fish/shellfish protein, eggs, complex carbs & starchy tubers, nuts & seeds, veggies & leafy greens, fruit & berries, etc. Dairy in moderation is also good if you can process it: cottage cheese, plain Greek yogurt, cheese.
- Eat a boat load of veggies, every day. As much as you want. No, seriously. DON'T skimp on the veggies. Especially leafy greens: broccoli, kale, spinach, etc.
- MODERATION ... have a "free meal" once a week, or allow yourself a small 200-calorie snack every day of anything you want. Take a diet break once and a while. Don't deprive yourself.
- Daily cardio or lifting. DAILY... with maybe a rest day thrown in once a week. The only way you can diet without starving your face off is to do a sh!t-ton of cardio. I usually do 60 minutes of moderate intensity cardio at least 4 times a week
- Make yourself accountable ... easiest way I've found to do this is to make your weight loss social. Join a run group, or group exercise class. Grab a real life friend and be "diet buddies" .. post online, etc. Have a strong social support network to help hold yourself accountable.
- Food preparation. This one is huge. PLAN out your meals, what food you will have in the house, etc. I spend 2-3 hours a week just cooking and storing my healthy foods for the week. And if I'm going out or planning a "free meal" I still plan ahead and think about which healthier & lower calorie options I can get at the restaurant. I'm always thinking about food prep...
- SLEEP. Get good quality sleep every night. Willpower will always fail you if you are overly tired...
The touchy-feely run down- Don't starve yourself to compensate for a binge! I know it can be difficult but never ever starve/restrict or punish yourself for the binge. Return to your normal healthy eating habits and normal calorie range the next day. Forgive yourself, forget the binge, and move on.
- View healthy eating and passing up sweets as a victory, not a sacrifice. Every time you eat a healthy food, congratulate yourself. Pat yourself on the back. Get excited about it! Small victories are the key to the road to recovery and health. consider starting a marble jar: For every sweet you pass up, put a marble in the jar. It's a neat visual way to see how many "small victories" you've made.
- Pass up sweets/junk and binge eating as a victory, not a sacrifice. I know how terrible the feeling of missing binging can be! Even if it's a horrible habit, I know how it feels to actually miss being able to binge because it was such a long-term habit! And giving up sweets is hard but just see it as a victory not a sacrifice. Every time you pass up sweets and binge eating, you will get: better sleep, a stable mood, more energy, social confidence, and a happier you. Not to mention your body will thank you...
- Ditch the food scales and calorie counting for a while. If you used to weigh out food and portions (like I did) try stopping it for a while. It will help you stop the cycle of starving/restricting during the day. Just choose healthy foods and moderate portion sizes. Then add daily cardio on top of that.
- Start an exercise plan. Pair a healthy diet with a regular exercise program. Exercising will help motivate you to stick to eating healthy. It can also be a lot of fun and a way to get more social interaction and support! Try joining a running or other sports club. Or check out group classes at your gym.
- Prepare meals ahead of time in tupperware containers. Knowing that you have food ready to eat for the day will encourage you to stick to your meal plan and eat healthy/normal portions. It will also help you to think twice about binge eating since your normal healthy foods will go to waste if you do. It's much easier to chose healthy options when they are readily available.
- Don't grocery shop late at night or when hungry.
- Avoid scales and mirrors for a while. Believe in your ability to succeed and stick to a plan. Celebrate small victories, and learn to love the intrinsic joy of exercising and eating healthy.
- Continue to surround yourself with a supportive environment. Post online, hang out with health-conscious friends, join an exercise group, etc. The more support you get, the better.
- Always, always, always ... keep trying! Even if you slip up and binge, don't view it as a failure. The only failure is to stop trying completely. Keep hope and know that you CAN and WILL stop binge eating. Think positively and believe in your ability to succeed. Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself.
Also, from my experience, binge eating is /always/ about the food. The cause? Dieting. Almost all binge eating was caused because the person was dieting. ... Eating too few calories and/or depriving yourself will always lead to binge eating. You can fix your emotional problems, soul search, find love, reduce stress, change your location, whatever, etc... but the binge eating will always be about the food. We binge eat because food tastes good and we get a craving. It's a bad /habit/ and nothing more. The only thing you need to do to stop binge eating is ... stop binge eating! Kind of simple but it makes sense, right? To fix the problem of binge eating, you need to focus on just ... stopping the habit of binge eating. So don't make it out to be a bigger problem than it is. Knowing that you have the power to stop anytime and easily, that's a huge part of stopping the behavior. You are in control of your choices. Not the food, not other people, not the situation--YOU are. Cravings can't make you binge eat, only you can choose to start a binge or not. So just remember that you have the control and are responsible for your own choices. This sense of power and accountability helped me stop binge eating. Be /mindful/ of your choice and your actions ... and most importantly, follow the practical rules I posted above. You can't just will binge eating away, you need to make sure you are treating your body and mind with respect.
Best of luck to you!
Hi Aidanqm,
I'm glad you found a formula that works for you. That's really great.
I do need to remind everyone that reading lists like this can be dangerous for people with eating disorders, such as myself. It can be very triggering because it reminds us of the times when we were still very sick in our disease - always making plans and never sticking with them.
At OA, we have important rules for not discussing our own food plans in meetings. The reason for this is that everyone is different. Some people with eating disorders respond differently to advice just like you gave here. It can be a real binge trigger. I know that's a paradox because its all good advice. But that's why we call it an eating disorder or disease. It doesn't make sense.
For most human beings, the idea of unlimited fruits and veggies, or a "free day" are good, healthy ideas. For many compulsive overeaters, these ideas are very unhealthy. That's why we call ourselves "compulsive." We literally cannot just have one treat. We will always eat the whole box. We will always move on from the carrot sticks to the ice cream.
The principles of OA say that we start by recognizing that we cannot control our eating disorder by ourselves. No matter how good the advice, people come to OA with years of getting good advice and failing to follow through. After that important step, we use the principles of spiritual growth and communal responsibility to help each other do what we cannot do alone. Specifically, we stop binge eating.