Hi fellow OAs
I'm a newbie on my 4th step now. Looked at it for a week, without writing anything yet. Definitely not my favourite!
Anyone care to share their experience on their step 4 journey (nothing too private), in terms of the written length, and how much time it takes to write it. Any recommended reading or meditation at this step?
The fourth step was not fun for me and seemed to last forever. I think I actually spent about two months on it which makes me a nonexample. I looked at it a lot and procrastinated a lot. It brought up a lot of crappy feelings and at times I used the things I thought of to beat myself up with which also makes me a nonexample. When I had finished, my product amounted to 20 pages of things that bothered me. It was very disorganized and that bothered me. Sometimes I just wrote and at other times I generated lists. I chose to read it to my therapist which I think is a bit unconventional. While I read she kind of jotted down ideas and helped me group my flaws into themes. This helped me a lot. When we finished we came up with Controlling Others, Resentment, Lying, Judging, Selfishness and Hypocricy. These are not flattering and I imediately recognized them as the things I dislike most in others. Bingo, she said. This is what most people discover from working the fourth step. I hope this helps.