Originally Posted by betsy2013
Great news!!!! (Original post...water weight will go away). Thanks for the inspiration. I'm about to fall off a cliff and need you're can do attitude to keep me from sliding further down this hill.
I had to laugh (at myself) when you described me as having a "can do" attitude.
I'll let you (all) in on a little secret, I have absolutely no idea whatsoever whether or not I "can do" this. This meaning losing, not gaining, eating better, moving more, watching, logging...
I always thought I that to succeed at weight loss, I needed to believe in my ability to succeed. When my belief faltered, so did my resolve.
Don't get me wrong, "I can't" thinking is the kiss of death (because it gives you permission to quit).
Just adding a "maybe" to both the "can't dos" and the "can dos" can make all the difference....
Maybe I can do this.
Maybe I can't do this, but I'm going to give it my best shot.
The only thing I've truly changes is that I refuse to turn tail and run. I can run forward, I can walk, I can crawl. I can stand my ground, I can even slide backward... but if I do backslide it's not going to be a freefall. I'm going to be digging and clawing to try to stop the slide. I will not be my own enemy by turning tail and running towards weight gain, poor eating, and lethargy.
When I die on this playing field (and I will, because the game never ends), I don't care quite so much about my "score," but I do want be at least facing the goal, not running in the opposite direction.
Most of the time, my thoughts are more along the lines of, " I probably can't do this, but I'd rather try to succeed and fail than succeed at failing."
The biggest success been has been to abandon the attitude that "Since I'm failing anyway, I can't make it any worse by gaining, so I'm going to not just give up, I'm going to embrace gluttony and sloth as my consolation prize. I'm going to succeed at bingeing and couch sitting."
Yeah, not so much a can do attitude as much as refusing to believe that it's ever not worth the effort to try. Even on my worst days, I try to give it at least a half-assed attempt (though sometimes it's more like quarter-assed).