This is kind of a sidenote, but it bothers me how so many of us (including myself) refer to prioritizing our own health as selfish. I don't think it is selfish to take care of oneself - we don't consider breathing selfish, so why eating healthy and exercising, which are also basic needs? We all know this, but it's somehow still stuck in our minds that spending time, money, and energy on something that produces personal gain (or loss
) is inherently selfish.
I guess I just hate equating something "bad" (like the word selfish) with something that is, in fact, "good" - for us and for everyone we love.
As for Meg's questions...
What have you always wanted to do that you've been postponing because of your weight?
Not really anything in particular, but I had started avoiding physical activities and games because of how tired they made me.
Or do you find yourself turning to food less and less as you get more out of life?
Hmmm... sometimes. It might help if I explicitly thought of certain things as optional replacements for food - like the next time I think that brownie cheesecake is too irresistible, I could decide that reading a new book would be equally enjoyable. (Unfortunately, I've very accomplished at the art of eating and reading at the same time
How have changes in you affected your relationships?
This is an interesting question. I'm not really sure. I'm less depressed, so that must have some kind of effect. My dad actually called me his hero, for losing weight and never complaining about the sacrifices it required. He still thinks of it as something to help me "catch a husband" though
It has encouraged my mom and some siblings to try to eat healthier and lose weight, and I am now the official expert on such things. Mostly, my relationships seem the same, though.
How has weight loss affected your confidence and self-esteem - or was it the other way around for you?
It was definitely weight loss first, with some improvements in confidence and self-esteem following. I'm a tiny
bit less self-conscious.