did you sabotage yourself in the home stretch??

YP1 · 05-23-2006, 04:02 PM

I'm bouncing between 158 and 162 at the moment. As my original goal was 160, that's just about spot on, but I'm thinking that I'm going to recommit to a slightly lower goal (154). Whether I make it or sabotage myself is yet to be discovered though, but at the moment I feel like I need a new goal to stop myself getting too complacent, I know there will eventually come a point where the only option is maintenance, but I don't want to keep thinking that I've "made it" when actually I know that I would probably feel better just that bit lighter.

lilybelle · 05-24-2006, 07:14 PM

My doctor set my goal weight at 150 which is where I'm at. I decided to try for 145 to give me a little bouncing room. I have been at 150 for going on 3 weeks now and can't seem to go any lower. I am trying to step up my exercise a bit and drink more water. I am sticking well to my food plan. I may be sabotaging myself and unconsciously be afraid of hitting maintenance. I really do think I'm trying hard. I am 5'7 and am getting a lot of compliments, but I want to see 140's so bad. Haven't been in 140's in 13 yrs.

getncontrol · 05-27-2006, 04:16 PM

I'm a bouncer too! Everytime I got down to 154, I'd give myself a license to eat. From March until now I've bounced around 150-165. I think I'm finally ready to make it to goal now. Maybe my body just needed to 'rest' a while after 9 months of steadily losing weight. I don't know but everything seems to be falling into place these days.

bnbsmommy1 · 05-27-2006, 07:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Jayde

Are you sure that you want to go 20 pounds lower than 170? I would think for your height that you are just about there if not there already.

If you decide to go lower maybe when you get close to 162 you should consider getting comfortable there and just see what happens as you contiue to live healthy.

yes, I'm definitely sure that 150 is where I want to be...if I felt uncomfy or bone like I'd definitely go back up but right now at 170 I feel huge, my stomach feels like it looks like I'm pregnant.

my lowest was 162 and that felt fantastic

I'm wondering how I was EVER comftorable at 250 when I now feel disgusting at 170. In a way, I'm GLAD that I'm not satisfied with this weight. I feel like it will keep me from just saying 'to heck with it' and going all the way back up again. Thank you all for your words and advice. I know I will hit this goal, just not at the time that I had set to meet it which was exactly a year from when I started. But that's ok

you guys are the best

Lacey

Katpo · 05-30-2006, 09:49 PM

Hoo boy, this is one topic I can SO relate to!

I have a huge sense of entitlement too, and think that if I'm good for one day, I can blow it the next. Of course, that's the worst way to think but I can't help it!

I lost my first 15 and maintained it for a year, got comfortable there, then lost another 15. I'm still maintaining that and am not sure how much lower I want to go, but I'm at my goal size. Of course, that's with clothes ON!

I love reading that there are more people like me out there.

teapotdynamo · 06-12-2006, 04:20 PM

Boy, did this ever hit home today. I've basically been bouncing up and down betwen 146 and 150 since January, and I'd gotten so frustrated with myself that I quit posting. I can't help but think something psychological *must* be going on with me, because I set my initial goal at -- you guessed it -- 145.

Some of my small lapses were expected; I went to Italy for two weeks and gained three pounds, so I had to relose those again (I expected worse, so I was actually a bit relieved). But otherwise, I'll have a few really great totally ON days, then start patting myself on the back (usually on the weekends when my structure goes out the window) and get mildly complacent.

I know what I need to do; why can't I just make myself do it? You'd think after losing 115+ pounds, I'd know how to lose those last few. In part, I'm frustrated because I know now that I want to lose at least another 15-20 pounds. At first, I felt so fantastic because the difference from 265 was so stark. But now, I've forgotten what it felt like to be so heavy and just feel frustrated with the body I have now. Maybe I'm just a little sick of the process. I guess in the scheme of things, a couple more months doesn't mean much. I know I'll get there eventually.

The upside, of course, is that I know what it feels like to maintain, and that is a HUGE relief. But if anyone has a magic answer to the self-sabotage question, I'd love to hear it!

lilybelle · 06-12-2006, 04:52 PM

I am continuing to bounce from 148 to 150. Everytime I hit 148 I eat something totally not on plan. It's like I give myself permission to screw up over and over again. It's frustrating. 3 lbs. to goal and can't seem to get there. I'm like Jennifer, I considered lowering my goal to 135 to trick myself to think I still had 18 lbs. to lose and see if that would help me get my butt in gear.

rmewife97 · 06-16-2006, 03:51 AM

This is my first time on the maint. forum. But I am so glad I came over! I do the same thing and I can not understand why I do that. I am also in a relapse and I HATE it! I am not exercising self-control. I am eating horribly and I feel so ashamed because everyone is so proud of me and I feel like I am such a let down. I am going to get my butt back in gear...Thanks for the inspiration ladies.

itsforme · 06-16-2006, 05:08 AM

I like the suggestion that sometimes we just get exhausted from the focus of it all! I know I do! I've been successful at losing 33 pounds sinse January and it has ultimately slowed down to a crawl as I get closer to my goal.

When life gets in the way and hectic, it takes that much more of me to focus on my efforts, and sometimes that gets tiring.

I find that if I allow myself these, well...mini breakdowns...I can better get back on track. The faster I do that, obviously the less damage is done, but I try not to focus on or beat myself up over them. And I also make sure they don't happen often.

We have a wedding next weekend ( oldest son ) a graduation this year ( youngest son ) a vacation in July and summer is here. Lots of parties, lots of celebrating. Lots of opportunities to get off track. So I may not hit my goal as quickly as I anticipated, but I know I will get there and I know, most of the time, I make great choices!

Let's face it...on our worst days...we eat better and make better food choices, than most people do on their best day!

Susan

lilybelle · 06-21-2006, 08:49 PM

I am now 2lbs. from goal with renewed determination to get it done. I lost a lb. this week for the first time in 3 weeks and was ecstatic. I have now included a lot of swimming in my exercise routine and I think the change is helping. I won't meet my goal of having met my goal by one year, which is tomorrow, but I got darn close and will keep going.

Meg · 06-21-2006, 08:54 PM

Congratulations on your year anniversary!

You'll be at goal in no time.

Mummy_Tummy · 06-22-2006, 06:32 AM

This thread couldn't have appeared at a more perfect time! I've been beating myself up about this very issue. I belong to Slimming World (it's like Weight Watcher's, with the meetings and weigh-ins once a week). If you look at my weight loss log, it shows a stunning loss of 3 pounds the first week, then a gain 1 1/2, then a loss of 2 pounds and then a gain of 1 1/2, then a loss, then a gain, then a loss, then a gain. I never gain back more than I have lost the week before so I am very slowly losing weight but it's like walking backwards to get somewhere! Imagine if, instead of gaining 1 1/2 pounds those weeks, I had even just maintained! It's a pattern that I can't seem to break and I really do not understand it. I know what I need to do, I know that it works when I do it and (here's the kicker) the Slimming World program is by far the least restrictive eating plan I've ever tried so it's not like I even feel all that deprived when I eat to plan. So why can't I stick to plan after a successful week? I feel the need to celebrate a success, I get bored with food journalling, I get a little lazy about the exercise. I don't know. I'm sure there's some deep-rooted phsycological issue I can't seem to bring to the surface. It just doesn't make any sense to me because I want to get to goal more than anything and the only thing standing in my way is...ME!

Not that I'd wish it on anyone, but it feels good to know I'm not the only one with this issue! I love 3FC. I'd never have made it this far without these forums!

lilybelle · 06-22-2006, 01:32 PM

Thanks Meg, today is my one year anniversary. I am pleased with my progress and determined to reach my goal. I don't know if others have had this much difficulty with losing the last few lbs. or not. I will be very happy when I can write my GOAL story and share my after pic's. This maintainers forum is excellent and I will read and post avidly because I know that I will still need so much help.

JuliaTN · 06-22-2006, 09:41 PM

AAACCCCKKK! Me too. Seems like everytime I see a 1/2 # loss, I go out for Mexican to celebrate. When I don't gain anything from the Mexican, I have a Twix bar to celebrate that. When I got down to 120 I wasn't particularly happy there (I'm pretty short), but since it was my original goal, I seemed to let myself think I could loosen up even though I had decided to lose 5 more. Never did that and instead let myself gain back 7. This thread is my turning point (she says as she puts the Whatchamacallit down).

BTW, I think my lowest ever was 118 which was only the dehydration resulting from a night of debauchery celebrating 120!

Mel · 06-22-2006, 10:09 PM

...and hundreds of forum members race to the nearest bar to "debauch" away two or three pounds

One of the things that I've been discovering about myself is that I have several goal weights. This probably sounds absurd if you are only thinking about scale weight, but I'm much more concerned about body fat percentage. During some times of the year (summer! vacations and when others in my gym are prepping for bodybuilding contests and getting ultra lean) I want to be leaner. That takes a lot of constant effort. In the middle of winter, I'm not thrilled about my tighter jeans, but it's just plain not worth it to me to live on a pre-comp diet and do hours of cardio in addition to daily heavy lifting to maintain ultra low body fat. It is a lifestyle, but there are different phases of life, too.

So I guess that I'm deliberatly sabotaging myself, too, but really making a conscious choice that I don't alway want to live so rigidly. (I still eat healthy!)

Mel