Michele, I'd ask, to save embarrassment later. Listen: I've got affluent friends who are extremely mindful of etiquette and order their stationery for thank-you notes from the same stationers that their parents and grandparents used. They'd pay. But I've also got far less-well-off family members who just don't think this way, & who'd think such a gathering is like spontaneously meeting up in a bar, where everyone pays for their own drinks.
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