Thanks for everyone’s comments. It’s very nice to have your support. Because of it, I’m thinking a bit more positively about this than I was before. There were, though, some things that I wanted to comment on more directly.
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Originally Posted by Mudpie
For me alcohol totally lowers my control abilities.
I think that was the case here for me, too. It doesn’t happen every time I drink alcohol (which is only once every other week or so), but it does happen sometimes and my control definitely does falter. It probably falters a bit with everyone, now that I think about it, or why would anyone ever got to Del Taco?
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Originally Posted by saef
So much in my life is outside of my control. I try to maintain control over my body and health. So it stands to reason that when I really skid out of control, as a sign that I'm feeling overcontrolled and starting to get rebellious, I express the desire to break free through eating fast & mindlessly, since everything else is laborious & mindful.
This idea of an internal rebellion really resonates with me. And I think the alcohol kind of enables that. It’s hard to remember sometimes that I’m trying to give myself a gift through my weight loss. I’m curious as to some of the things you do to loosen the over control without abandoning control altogether.
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Originally Posted by Natalie42
Yet, realize that you are human. You will never be perfect or not have a day where you over eat. I think that type of thinking will ruin your maintenance.
It’s true that I do like being perfect, and it’s also true that I don’t like realizing that that just isn’t possible.* My fear here is that if I fall off the wagon once, I will gain all the weight back because my resolve has weakened. Of course, getting back on the wagon (which I have done) is itself a sign that my resolve has not in fact weakened. I should probably take some bit of pride in that.
Maintenance is tricky, isn’t it?
*The long story short is that I have shame issues and the unhealthy way I deal with them is through perfectionism (so that I would have nothing to be ashamed about).