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Originally Posted by Shannon in ATL
I'm feeling pretty lost right now, and obviously a little sensitive. I've been posting less and less lately because of it. It might be time for me to step away and come back after the first of the year.
Shannon, my experience here is that the board works for me when I work the board. That is, when I don't self-censor and when I talk about what I call "the crazy" as freely as I'm able to do, I get some relief. When I just chat, and try to appear amiable or witty, without being upfront with what's really going on with me, it doesn't help me. And jeez, then why bother> Because I can make small talk at the office, in real life, when I head into Connecticut during the week. Here, I can talk about things that I don't feel safe discussing at work, with people whose relationship with me is more formal and professional, and with whom it would be unwise for me to be completely vulnerable and open.
I hope you will speak freely here, Shannon, because I really value hearing from you, as I think our struggles are very similar -- and when I don't hear anything, I may falsely assume a lack of need or simply that you're very busy, or preoccupied with helping your stepson find his way.
As for Jay, I think her helping us -- which is what I think she was trying to do -- met some need of hers, though I never felt that I was able to give her much help back in return, as she did not share as much about her own personal struggles, so there wasn't much insight I could ever offer.
I would hate to think of anyone holding back for fear of how they might be perceived. If that happens, this board isn't doing what it's meant to.