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Old 11-18-2009, 08:30 AM   #1  
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Default 'Tis the season - holiday party rant

Here we go again .... another season of non-stop pigouts all around me. Why does everything HAVE to revolve around eating??!!

My schedule is booking up fast already: Thanksgiving buffet dinner out with the in-laws, two office dinner parties, FOUR office lunch holiday parties, a church potluck, and that's all BEFORE I travel up to visit my Indiana family during the holiday week itself (the Land of Desserts). Not to mention the nonstop parade of edibles that will manifest in the office in December. <sigh>

Yes, I know how to manage. It is my 3rd holiday season in maintenance, so I know what to do. It just gets old. WHY can't we have an office holiday, I don't know -- bowling party? Skating party? 5K run ?? Wouldn't that be fun? *I* think so. But noooooo, let's all go out to LUNCH! Or worse, let's hit a buffet! (buffets are the work of the devil)

No wonder everybody's fat.

I will stick to my grilled chicken and my steamed broccoli. I will nurse my one rum and diet coke all night. And while everyone else is hung over and bloated the next morning, I will get up and do my usual 5 mile run and feel great. So there.

I'm just feeling snarky today ....
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Old 11-18-2009, 08:49 AM   #2  
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I feel your pain! On a regular basis all year long I can barely stand to be AT work because the other two ladies bring candy constantly. Like there's LITERALLY two 5 pound bags of candy between me and the bathroom right now. And they're constantly going to lunch or bringing burgers and fries to the office to eat (and wondering WHY they can't lose weight!).

And the holidays...one of the women won't cook for her family anymore (long story) so she makes fudge and cakes and pies and brings them HERE. There are only four of us in the office, so that's a lot of sweets to go around. Then there's the little Thanksgiving snack-fest they'll want to have next week, and the Christmas snack-fest next month. A restaurant here in town is having a meal next Wednesday and we're expected to go to that.

Then the family...I'm lucky this year because my brother and sister-in-law, who do the cooking, have been told to cut back on red meat, sugars, carbs, etc. So they're cooking healthier, and I hope it holds true this Thanksgiving. But right afterward the Christmases start...one for my husband's dad, then his granny, then his mom, then my family. Food food food...
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Old 11-18-2009, 09:18 AM   #3  
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MBN, I am so with you. The office treats are driving me nuts. Outside of work holiday parties are fine, because I can choose to go or not to go depending on how I feel, but the office stuff is more like an obligation. I had to go out to dinner for work the past two weeks for recruiting events, I had to go out to lunch yesterday because my boss's boss was in town, I'm told we will have another dinner out to celebrate our product's release, and all of this is in addition to my weekly project meeting where they feed us lunch.

Oh, and did I mention the break room is currently full of pumpkin muffins and my coworker who sits between me and the bathroom has a bowl full of chocolate on his desk?

I wish we could keep holiday parties out of the workplace. Let me celebrate with my friends and family if I want to. I don't like feeling obligated to go to celebrations with my coworkers.
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I feel kind of lucky that I work in IT where people aren't really super social! Our office usually has just one holiday event where we either go out to a nice lunch with co-workers, or we have a potluck supper at someone's home with spouses and kids. I'm not sure which it will be this year, but either way it's only one event so there shouldn't be too much damage done.

But the holidays in general feel a little dangerous. There are usually candy and treats given to us by vendors and other departments sitting around this time of year. We just got done with having bowls of leftover Halloween candy in the breakroom and I'm sure the homemade Christmas treats will start soon. I haven't been able to run lately due to asthma so I'm going to have to be super careful not to gain this holiday season.
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Old 11-18-2009, 09:58 AM   #5  
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Thank goodness for diversity! I work in a place filled with every culture you can imagine, so the American influence is diluted quite a bit. There isn't near the build-up or crazy calendar of food that I was used to when I worked for an automotive OEM, so the workplace ... not a place of temptation this year. Because of furloughs and unpaid voluntary vacations, work is really going to clear out for most of December. Weird, thinking that work is actually a safe haven from the food pushers ... I shall count this among my blessings at Thanksgiving!
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I completely understand what you're talking about! My workplace used to be the same, but then I became the one in charge of organizing things and so the season of food ended this year. We're doing a secret santa at work and I convinced my team to do it at someone's house and we're all responsible for eating beforehand. The only food that will be available at her house is crackers and chips, neither of which I'm fond of. I'm really excited to have avoided a potential disaster!!
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MBN, I hear ya! It's a 2 month binge fest....crazy! I've seen people on FB posting that they "don't care" if they gain weight during the next 2 months...they'll "diet" in January. That weight gain during this time of year "doesn't matter". It matters to me....

HoliDAY! Yes, I'll have traditional holiday foods on the DAY of the holiDAY. But there is no reason for 2 months of free-for-alls....

yeah, buffets, don't get me started. America's food trough.

It's nice to know that I am not alone with my food and exercise plans. Sometimes I look around my life and think I am one of the few....that's definitely true at some of my work sites.
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Old 11-18-2009, 02:19 PM   #8  
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Check out Tom Venuto's Holiday Fitness Challenge - very inspiring

Here's the site http://www.burnthefatblog.com/archiv...e.php#comments


My Holiday Fitness Challenge To You
Tom Venuto

Every year as Thanksgiving gets closer, you’ve probably seen the depressing reports: “Most people gain between 5 and 10 pounds of body fat in the six weeks between Thanksgiving and Christmas.” I’m not sure if this worries you or not, but a lot of people are terrified about getting fatter in the next two months. They anticipate the workouts falling by the wayside and the holiday food calling out to them irresistibly, defeating even the strongest willpower. There’s good news and bad news about this.

Good news: According to the New England Journal of Medicine, the average amount gained is much more modest - just over a pound.

Bad news: A study by the National Institutes of Health found that this seasonal weight gain - even just a pound - is the kind of weight gain that most people don’t lose when the holidays are over; it simply adds to the “weight creep” that “sneaks up” on you as you get older.

People often wonder how it’s possible to wake up one morning at age 40 or 45 and “suddenly” they’re 30 pounds fatter - or more - than they were in college. Mystery solved.

Of course, some people really do pack it on over the holidays, but whether its a pound or ten pounds, did you ever ask yourself why does holiday weight gain happen at all?

In previous years, I’ve asked my readers and here are some common answers I was given:

Holiday Excuse Survey Says…

“I’m too busy over the holidays to work out as often as usual.”

“I’m more stressed over the holidays, and the food is there, so I eat more.”

“I have at least three parties to attend and then there’s Christmas and New Year’s, so it’s impossible to stay on a diet”

“No one can tell me not to enjoy myself over the holidays so I’m just going to eat whatever I want.”

These answers all have a few things in common:

“Either/Or” Thinking and “Reverse Goal Setting” Exposed

First, they assume that you can EITHER get in better shape OR enjoy yourself, but not both. Stated in reverse: You can either deprive yourself of holiday enjoyments or gain weight, but it has to be one or the other. The truth is, “either/or thinking” is neurotic thinking and a great killer of fitness programs.

Second, these are all excuses or rationalizations. “I’m too busy” for example, is always an excuse, because I have never known someone who was too busy to make time for his her highest life priorities. We all have the same amount of time - 24 hours a day – the real problem is, most people don’t make exercise and healthy eating a priority. And remember, words mean little. Actions reveal a person’s true priorities.

Third, none of these are the real reasons most people gain weight over the holidays to begin with. The real reason is because an intention was never set for the opposite: To get in better shape over the holidays.

Most people set a “goal” to get in worse shape over the holidays. It’s not consciously set, of course, as few people would intentionally set out to get fatter. They simply do it by default. In their minds, they accept that it must be just about impossible to stay in shape with everything going on over the holiday season, so why bother?

Rationing Lies For Holiday Failure

Once the decision has been made, then the rationalizing continues:

“Why should I deprive myself?”
“Family is more important”
“Worrying about diet and exercise during the holidays is neurotic”
“I don’t care if I gain a few pounds, I’m going to enjoy myself anyway”
“It’s only these two or three weeks that I let myself go wild”
“I’ll start the first week in January and lose the weight then.”

As a result of this “negative goal-setting,” they expect to work out less, eat more and gain a few pounds, and they don’t seem to even consider alternatives.

But what would happen if you…

SET A GOAL TO GET IN BETTER shape over the holidays?

What would happen if you decided that it was not an all or nothing proposition and that you could enjoy the holidays and all it has to offer and get in better shape at the same time?

And what if you decided that your health and your body were the highest priorities in your life, because you realized that can’t enjoy anything else in life, including family or holidays, if you don’t have your health?

Here’s what would happen: You’d get in better shape!

I’m not all that different from you just because I’m a bodybuilder and fitness professional. I have many of the same problems, concerns and struggles as you do. Although today I always get in better shape between Thanksgiving and New Year’s, that’s a result of a conscious choice, a close examination of my old belief systems and a lot of action. For me, it all started about eight years ago.

For most of my adult life, I wasn’t much of a traveler and I didn’t enjoy flying or staying in hotels. For one thing, I had so many business commitments in the East Coast health club business, that I seldom left town for long, as I had to “tend to the stores.” But I also had a belief that if I traveled, my workouts and nutrition would suffer. After all, “it would be hard to stick with my usual bodybuilding diet, and I wouldn’t have access to my usual gyms”, I told myself. For these reasons, I never did much travel..

Then I was forced to take some trips for business reasons. Predictably enough, my nutrition and workouts suffered while I was spending time in airplanes and in hotels. With my experience having confirmed my beliefs, I re-affirmed to myself, “See, travelling is nothing but a pain. You just can’t stay on a diet and training program when you’re out of town.”

After several more trips, I noticed that something very negative happened: I surrendered. I had resigned myself to “not bother” while I was on the road. I let my expectations create my reality.

But I didn’t let it go on for long. As soon as I became aware of what was happening, I decided that I wouldn’t tolerate it, so I challenged myself and my previous limiting beliefs. I asked myself, “Why the heck not? Why let myself backslide? Why even settle for maintaining? Why not challenge myself to improve while I’m traveling?” The answer was: There was no good reason, there were only excuses.

From that day forward, I set a challenge for myself…

To come back from every trip or vacation in better shape than when I left.

Of course there were exceptions, as when I went on a vacation for total R & R. But I never let travel get in my way again. I prepared food that I would eat on the planes so airline food was never an excuse… I usually chose hotels that had kitchens, so I could cook my own food. I went food shopping immediately after check-in. I wrote my training schedule and scouted gyms in advance… And I actually found myself training harder than usual.

No matter where I was training - it could even be some “dungeon” of a gym in the middle of nowhere - it didn’t matter because my mind was focused on improving and looking better when I came home than when I left. I had a goal to motivate me!

What do you think happened? It’s not hard to guess: I always came home in better shape than when I left.

Since then, my “travel challenge” has become somewhat of a ritual in my life. When I’m away from my “home-base” it becomes a “fitness road trip.” I search the Internet or yellow pages or ask locals to help me find the most hard-core gym nearby wherever I will be staying (Gold’s Gym works for me!) When I get there, I train every bit as hard as if I had a competition just weeks away. I look forward to it now. In fact, this is what led me to my “holiday fitness challenge” idea.

Like many people, I travel over the holidays, so I’m automatically in “travel challenge” mode at thanksgiving, Christmastime and New Year’s. But with the additional temptations and busyness that the holidays bring on top of the usual travel stresses, I saw fit to declare a new challenge: “The Holiday Challenge.” The difference was that for my “holiday challenge,” I pledged to not only to return home in better shape than when I left, but to enjoy the holidays to the fullest at the same time.


People who think I deprive myself to look the way I do would be shocked: I eat like a KING over the holidays including Pumpkin (or apple) Pie at Thanksgiving and OF COURSE my mom’s famous red and green Jell-O Christmas cake. Then on New Year’s I’m usually toasting champagne and having a blast with friends or family….

The difference is, I don’t eat like that very often.

Every other meal stays right on schedule and I work out hard and consistently over the holidays; I don’t let everything fall apart just because ‘tis the season.’

The idea that you can EITHER enjoy the holidays OR stay in shape - but not both - is wrong, it’s damaging and it’s limiting.

Life is not an either or proposition; it’s a matter of balance.

Success does not mean going to extremes. Success can be a simple matter of re-examining your beliefs, rearranging your priorities, setting goals, changing the questions you ask yourself and re-evaluating your expectations.

Your expectations will become your reality. What are you expecting? Are you expecting success? Are you expecting to be in better shape after holiday parties, celebrations, banquets, dinners, and desserts? If not, then why not? What’s preventing you from enjoying all of the above and still getting in better shape? Do you have a limiting belief which dictates that it’s one or the other? Could it be that you never set a goal, intention or expectation to do it? Could it be that you’re rationalizing or making excuses? If so, then I challenge you to change it this year.

As of this writing, there are seven weeks until the end of the year. Why not see how much you can improve your physique over the holidays, without depriving yourself of any holiday enjoyments or festivities? Just step up your expectations. Step up your standards. Step up your nutrition. Step up your training. Step up your action. Step up and accept the “Burn The Fat holiday fitness challenge” see what happens!

That’s right…

The First Annual Burn The Fat Holiday Fitness challenge Starts Within The Next Week!

Over the course of a “50-Day Burn” I’ll show you not only how to get in the best shape of the year, but eat delicious Holiday Food and enjoy yourself to the fullest at the same time. Best part: wait until you see the rewards for the winners!

Keep your eyes riveted to this blog and watch for the posts and email announcements over the days to come because the most exciting and motivating fitness competition of the year is about to begin.

Train hard and expect success!

-Tom Venuto,
Author of Burn The Fat, Feed The Muscle
Founder/CEO, Burn The Fat Inner Circle

PS. Most people wait until New Year’s to put any concerted effort into improving their body and their health. You may be now starting to realize that THIS is the best time of the year to decide, set some goals and commit to achieving them. Even if you decide not to formally enter the official Burn The Fat contest when registration opens next week, will you accept the challenge?
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Old 11-18-2009, 02:39 PM   #9  
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Yup, my "holiday season" starts Friday night with a pre-Thanksgiving potluck at our square dance club. Then there's the day itself. Citywide potluck on 12/4, large quilt guild potluck on the 3rd, small quilt group brunch on the 5th, dept party on the 11th, friends' party on the 12th, and then breathe til Christmas day. Oh, and I forgot the pie social at church the night before Thanksgiving. I need to have a plan for each one! Thankfully, most are potluck type events so I can bring - and just eat what I brought. Someone almost always brings veggies and/or fruit. Now if I can just stay away from the wine (which really is only at 2-3 of the events).....
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Old 11-18-2009, 02:54 PM   #10  
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Interestingly enough, I usually do so much cooking during the holidays that I don't feel like eating it. Nice side effect.

As far as work is concerned, I'm in charge of buying the candy (it sits on my desk and is a request of my boss) and junk food for parties. I'd have mutiny on my hands if I only bought healthy food, but I can and do buy junk food that I won't touch/don't like. I buy healthy stuff too, of course, so people do have an option. Unfortunately, I work for a couple of junk food loving naturally thin women, so there's no way I can get rid of the junk completely (they are great bosses though.)
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