The doctor, after quizzing me about the measures I’d taken to address my insomnia, asked me why I thought an anti-anxiety med might do the trick. I told her I’d seen a counselor about anxiety and that my CBT tricks didn’t help much at night, and that I slept fine on weekends when I wasn’t anxious about work the next day. Then I told her about the life change we were experiencing with MIL. She gave me a prescription for a med that addresses anxiety. It doesn’t cause cognitive difficulties for most folks. I’ve taken it for 2 nights and am most impressed. I’ve woken up as much as usual, but have fallen back to sleep pretty quickly. I don’t think I’ll take it on weekends, but will Monday to Thursday.
Food has been fine calorie-wise. But, I’ve found that many higher fat foods really don’t agree with my digestion anymore. For example -- on Sunday, we went to our favorite restaurant in Bar Harbot, with big windows overlooking the harbor. Although I usually have a salad or seafood when I go there, I was just craving a burger. And not just a burger, but one with cheese and carmelized onions. I have rules about this – if I have a burger at a restaurant then I can top it with cheese or veggies, but not both. But I was just la-di-dah, I don’t have to follow rules… And for the next 4 hours I felt disgusting from all the fat in the meal. Oh well. We had a light dinner when we got home, so the calories ended up fine for the day.
*2 day report* WI-down .9 lbs. Read my cards, made a plan. Food – op, Exercise – op (48m/57m).
CeeJay for 10 lbs lost – and for walking the Beck walk!
gardenerjoy for the new low and choosing to eat reasonably at a restaurant. Re: your problem about wanting to eat in order to take a break. Do you think you can do something healthier for a break – a walk, doing laundry, petting the cat, anything just to stand up and move around?
Robin Kudos for getting thru your first workshop, and good luck with the stress eating. And credit for food op and exercise yesterday.
Bill I couldn’t tell from you description of the potluck, did you choose healthy foods and eat only until full? Or did you eat the peanuts after you were already full? Lol at your solution for wanting to eat in order to avoid work. I *wish* I could make myself get up and do something when I’m busy. I can’t seem to pull that one off…
one by one I think your new weight management program looks great. taking such a bold step. The only thing that kind of set off a red flag for me is that it is a 6 month program. And I think most of us need more than 6 months to lose all the weight we need to lose. Are you happy with how they will continue to help you after the program is over?
It sounds like you are having a lovely b-day/anniversary. It’s so uplifting to hear your optimism and happiness. Cheers!
Future Fit Chick The concept of thinking like a thin person has probably had the biggest impact on how I view eating and exercise. I always take the opportunity to watch thin people eat, and ask them questions about what they do/think about food and exercise.
I misspelled it – it’s actually WAVES. They were a branch of the Navy in WWII composed only of women.
We promised MIL lobster and wine every day; we try to keep our word! And the lobster here in Maine is soooo sweet and tender. You can get lobster here that was in the ocean the day before. Being out of the ocean for a while really seems to affect how it tastes. So, you’ll have to come here sometime to see how lobster should taste.
Beach Patrol Credit for the wise food choices and exercise – you are doing great!
shepherdess Working the livestock does sound like fun! Credit for the moonlight run (must have been spectacular!) and great food choices.
I did fine with snacks today -- identifying the problem is at least enough to make me cautious.
Hauled leaves for exercise -- aerobics, endurance, and strength training all in one practical activity!
WI: +0.35kg, Exercise: +90, 177/1300 minutes for November, Food: op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no
Thanks, everyone, for your advice about how to deal with my difficulties in taking a break. "Walk" seems to be the consensus answer and definitely one that I think will work for me.
Lady Windsong: I'm working on a fantasy romance. It's going well so far. My hero is entranced and my heroine barely knows he exists.
gardenerjoy- Your insight about not taking a break without food is right on!! I used to take breaks to smoke, then to eat. I am walking lots of short walks, keeps me away from the break room which 80% of the time has goodies on the table.
RobinW-sorry about your crash and burn day. Hope today was much better. Good for you for sticking to your plan and walking.
Lady Windsong- LOL. Anything thin is foreign to me too. LOL. I like your comments about looking at change as an adventure. Who know's what can happen, right?
BillBlueEyes- LOL re the half price Halloween candy. To heck with it, credit for you for walking the other way. Thanks for the kind thoughts. I am standing firm that despite trouble, I am not eating my way through it.
onebyone- welcome back and happy birthday. I loved reading about your desire to get things in order and turn things around. I am just starting down this path too and wish the same.
FutureFitChick-Credit for all your accomplishments- recording your food, sitting down to eat, making lunch and reading the Advantages cards. Fantastic.
Beach Patrol- Good for you for all you have accomplished this week. OP with food and exercise- I so know the danger of getting cocky. I find that the response cards are helping me with where I have been and don't want to go back to.
Shepherdess- Even though you were running around, you are on plan, so that's great. Agreed that walking is better than food for stress relief. I can't tell you how much better I feel when I get out in some fresh air. I think I had an easier time resisting tarts than I would have had with your homemade brownies. LOL.
Ruthxxx- how did the rest of the day go?
Nuxmaga- YAY for 2 pounds and for skipping the cupcake bakery.
ChinaMaine-glad you are sleeping better. And credit for being op with food and exercise.
For me another day on program for eating and for walking. I have been at this 3 weeks now and feel 100% better than I did 3 weeks ago. I am a little worried though because every other time I have tried to lose weight I start melting down at the 3 week point, you know what I mean- starting to eat extra food, then sugar, then saying to **** with it for certain meals, and that is the end of all my good intentions in another week or two. And I always lose a bunch fast (like this time 10 lbs in 3 weeks) but that dramatically tapers off now. So before that would be a huge disappointment too. This time I am accepting that I will not be losing at this rate for much longer and that is OK. So I am determined to pass this next week and that will be a huge accomplishment for me.
Diet Coaches/Buddies - A late meeting at work got me out of sync. I considered skipping gym, but put off the errands instead; CREDIT moi. For each one of my d*rn lunges, I thought I could have skipped this, LOL.
Leftover Halloween candy appeared in the mail room - ignored by me, of course, CREDIT moi. People are getting desperate, LOL. I'm ready to stop seeing the stuff.
onebyone - Nice birthday. Sounds like you're clear that you're on your new journey. Kudos for getting your artwork finished and hung; you do seem to have a knack for making those deadlines.
Robin (RobinW) - Yay for working for an employer who sends you home for a nap when you're exhausted. Good choice.
ChinaMaine - Glad you're getting some sleep. Ouch for the reaction to the hamburger; good warning for me since I'm contemplating a trip to a local "famous" hamburger place with DW. I've got this image of how much I'll enjoy it without considering that I haven't had a big hamburger plate in a few years. She thinks we'll need to split a plate in order to finish it. Methinks she's right, but it seems like a crime to split a hamburger, LOL.
Margaret (Nuxmaga) - Yep, those old neural pathways are reminding you that you used to eat pudding farfaits to deal with stress. Fond memories of days gone by. Good luck preparing for your major craft show.
Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for leaf hauling as the all-in-one exercise plan. Yep, identifying the problem seems to be the biggest step.
FutureFitChick - Yay for sleeping a ton; Ouch for the cold that's causing that. The spaghetti we used to buy had a measuring diagram printed right on the box - a set of concentric circles marked for number of servings. LOL that you acquired one through marriage. Good luck choosing your exercise program.
Beach Patrol - Kudos for giving yourself credit for "positive thinking - on track!" Dreaming of a lagoon in my back yard.
Shepherdess - Now that's a neat idea - to put a piece of brownie in the freezer so that you don't feel deprived; Kudos. Lovely image of you running home under the Harvest Moon.
Ruth (Ruthxxx) - Yay for a new mindset. Happy reading.
LADY WINDSONG - Always good to be reminded that I can choose. Re "did you grab?" Nope, I walked past without going in; left all that discounted candy for the people who needed it, LOL.
CeeJay - Kudos for identifying that the 3 week point is an important hurdle to be passed. And Kudos for continuing on plan despite troubles. Rooting for you from here.
day 6 Find a Diet Coach
Here's what your diet coach can do: . . .
Help you solve problems. From time to time you'll encounter obstacles that can make sticking to this program difficult. You might find that you're too busy to find the time and energy you need to follow your diet. You might feel unmotivated. You might feel that other people, purposely or not, put roadblocks in your way. Let your diet coach help you solve both your diet and non-diet related problems. Two heads are better than one. . . .
The Beck Diet Solution, pg 84.
New Journey: 10 years
In maintenance phase: 8 years and 6 months
Following Dr. Judith Beck via 3FC's Beck Diet Solution Forum: 8 years
Tonight is our 2nd workshop and Im not feeling like Im going to throw up! Thats always a good thing.
I have made quite a few decisions over the last week, and stopping in here to drop a few lines just isnt helping me. I need to get my book back out and apply EVERYTHING Ive learned and APPLY IT I want to be successful in all aspects of my life. Ive been asking myself what good success is if I wont be around to enjoy it in 20 yrs because Ive let diabetes or heart disease take control of me. (Im not good with giving up control)
1. I will make time to post here and check in with my coaches
2. I will make time every morning to get to the gym
3. I will make time to prepare my food in advance
4. I will make time to read my cards
5. I will make time to take care of ME
...even if it isnt a perfect day, I will accept that it wasnt perfect and just get on with it.
Ok...with all that being said I need to dash! Get myself organized for tonight.
FFChick ~YAY for reading your cards, eating well, and sitting down!!!
1x1 ~ This WILL be the year for you! We're all here to support & help each other - you'll meet your goal if you don't give up!
Nuxmaga ~ WOO HOO for the "negative 2" !!!! And extra woohoos for tracking your food, 9700+ steps and ESPECIALLY for turning that car around!!!!
ChinaMaine ~ Double Yippee for reading your cards & making a plan!
Garndenerjoy ~ Identifying the problem is the biggest part of any solution! Way to go!!!
CeeJay ~ I have also been at this for 3 weeks; and like you, I too feel 100% better! WOO HOO! -
Bill ~ SUPER for not skipping gym, and EXCELLENT on ignoring the left over Halloween candy!!!!
RobinW ~ congrats on making time to take care of YOU. That's where it all begins, when we realize we are responsible for ourselves! Yay, you!
AS FOR MYSELF...
Today was not as "cheery" for me as normal. I contribute it to surfing the crimson tide. But I have read my cards, eaten healthy, sat down for my meals (including my snacks!!) and exercised. But I still feel very disappointed that I haven't lost any weight (not even 1/2 a pound! ) in 3 weeks. I have read & re-read & read again my response card "I'm not trying to win The Biggest Loser here! Just want to be healthy & lose weight, not quickly, but rather FOR GOOD this time!" But I can't help it... that cracked thinking interferes from time to time "might as well forget it, I just can't lose this weight"... then I come here, and reading all the positive vibes from y'all makes me want to stick with it. So.... thanks! It really helps!!!!
Also... someone brought homemade carrot cake to work today. Everyone kept saying "oh, you HAVE to try a piece! it's so good!"... well, after lunch, I still felt a little bit hungry, and a co-worker said "Go ahead, just one slice!! It won't hurt!" ... and I said "Yeah, OK!..." and I cut a itty-bitty, eensy-weensy, t-tiny slice... ate two bites and took the rest to my desk... AND PROMPTLY FILE 13'd IT!!!! So, there's my "big credit" for the day.
__________________ CHANGE IS HARD.
BUT PERPETUAL DISSATISFACTION AIN'T NO PICNIC EITHER!
You CAN have ANYTHING you want,
but you CAN'T have EVERYTHING you want!~my mama!
Last edited by Beach Patrol : 11-05-2009 at 05:25 PM.
Another day on track. That makes me so happy. Credit for eating healthy meals on plan, walking twice, resisting carrot cake and posting here.
I reluctantly decided to post my weight. I have never told anyone that number. Only my doctor knows that bit of info. I guess putting it up there is another way of deepening my commitment to this path and telling myself that this time is the last time.
BillBlueEyes- good for you for going to the gym even though you did not want to. I mean really, what could be more fun than lunges. LOL. Not that I would know-- the only thing I have lunged for in the past 30 years is food.
RobinW- sounds like you are recommitting to yourself. You sound very determined.
Beach Patrol-we are on the same time line. Excellent, we will do this together. You did great today. Funny both our work places had carrot cake on the same day. I give you huge credit for keeping going, despite no movement on the scale. Do not give up, it will move again. You are doing great.
Today was a pretty low key day. Since I’m sleeping better, I’m waking up earlier. I love my time in the morning to exercise, read my cards, etc. I really don’t like feeling rushed in the morning – and if I sleep late to make up for insomnia, I always feel rushed. I also have more time to practice piano. My exercise was an upper body workout following by a 1 mile walk with Moose.
WI-up 1.1 lbs. Read my cards, made a plan. Food – op, Exercise – op (48m).
Bill I forgot to respond to your query about lobster prices. Yes, the market price for lobster has fallen through the floor since last September. Last winter we felt guilty eating lobster at $4.45 a lb because the lobsterman can’t make money at that price. The only positive thing about the $3.89 lobster is that the retailer bought it directly from the lobsterman. So he may actually have made more money than those who caught the $4.45 lobster. But, I agree, I don’t believe they can be making a living wage.
Omg I totally am in sync about the lunges. I’ve tried to appreciate them, but they are the most evil exercise known to man. Nuf said…
CeeJay Credit you for posting your weight. This is one big step towards taking the power back. The number on the scale is just a number, and it provides useful information. The conisistent steps you take every day to eat healthy and exercise are the real power here…
Beach Patrol If it’s TOM, that could explain not showing any weight loss. Let’s see what your weight is in a week or so, what do you think?
Robin for your new commitments!!
gardenerjoy Kudos for the productive exercise of hauling leaves. I get tired just thinking about it.
I made an appointment today for a free consultation with a curly hair specialist next week. I fully expect her to talk me into making a further appointment for a new color and a new style. Several things have come together recently that make me want to update my look. One, of course, being that I am successfully losing weight. I don't want to spend money on clothes right now, but it seems like the perfect time to start figuring out what hair style will work for me.
WI: +0.45kg, Exercise: +40, 217/1300 minutes for November, Food: op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no
CeeJay: I think you'll pass the three week mark with flying colors. I'm now about 12 weeks in -- which is precisely twice as long as I've ever managed to work a program before. Think of all the things that you are doing differently this time -- particularly posting here.
I surprised myself when I put my weight up, too. It seems to be part of the culture here and being open and honest about my weight in this one space helps me own my process.
BillBlueEyes: way to go with getting exercise in on a day that doesn't go according to schedule -- that can be such a challenge.
RobinW: your goals sound like a great way to get yourself in a position to make this all work for you
Beach Patrol: good job sticking to the plan even when the scale isn't rewarding you. I've been losing in fits and starts -- I've been stuck twice for about three weeks. I hope that satisfying whoosh of weight loss comes for you soon. And BRAVO! for eating only two bites of carrot cake!
ChinaMaine: so glad that you are sleeping better and reaping the benefits of early mornings.
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The leftover Halloween candy remains in the mail room, shrinking slowly; apparently demand is low. I'll fantasize that this means that everyone at work has become diet conscious, LOL. I continued to not take any - CREDIT moi - but monitored it each visit like a teenager reading Playboy.
Went for my dental cleaning; got the standard lecture that I should do more, "Do your brush for the full two minutes?" But got a FREE toothbrush as usual. As usual, I'm as drawn to a FREE toothbrush as I am to FREE food. Need to find a way to make myself replace my toothbrush monthly instead of waiting until I notice that the bristles are limp.
Robin (RobinW) - Kudos for digging into your "not good with giving up control" to take charge of your food and exercise plans. Now that's an insight. And thanks for the reminder, "I will accept that it wasnt perfect and just get on with it." Hope your second session went well.
ChinaMaine - Yay for morning time; Yay for being a morning person. Glad you continue to get your sleep. Thanks for the lobster update; can imagine it's a bind to enjoy the bargain prices when you identify with the lobstermen.
Joy (gardenerjoy) - Such a positive sign to want to change your appearance. Kudos for charging forward there instead of putting it off until some fuzzy future time when you're 100% happy with your weight. Does "curly hair specialist" imply you arrive with curly hair looking for a new style, or arrive with straight hair to become curly?
Beach Patrol - Like the phrase, "I'm not trying to win The Biggest Loser." Kudos for keeping the faith as you wait for your body to let go a bit. And Kudos for tossing the carrot cake; I still shudder at the thought of tossing food - the starving children in China neurons.
LADY WINDSONG - Waving back, although perhaps you can't see this without a computer. See you when you return.
CeeJay - I like that play on words; next time I'm doing lunges at the gym I'll remember that I used to lunge for food, LOL. Kudos for another day on track and for posting your weight - a courageous act.
day 6 Find a Diet Coach
Here's what your diet coach can do: . . .
Keep you accountable. Knowing that you have to report on your progress to someone can motivate you to stick to your plan. THIS IS A CRUCIAL COMPONENT OF THE PROGRAM. Dieters I've counseled have told me time and time again, "I didn't overeat because I knew I'd have to tell you about it." You'll keep yourself in line better if you know you're going to have to report to your diet coach. Make sure you're completely honest! . . .
The Beck Diet Solution, pg 85.
New Journey: 10 years
In maintenance phase: 8 years and 6 months
Following Dr. Judith Beck via 3FC's Beck Diet Solution Forum: 8 years
Last edited by BillBlueEyes : 11-06-2009 at 08:00 AM.
Hi, Coaches/Buddies. I've been doing lots of thinking over the last several days regarding future life plans. Eventually I came to realize that in order to care for another, I need to get my day to day life in order. I really struggle with routine, so this makes things even more difficult. So, I will really be focusing on getting my day to day routine (eating, exercise, meditation, etc.) set. Furthermore, I want to maintain a healthy routine for 1 year before I consider adding other responsibilities to my life.
For now, I have decided to commit to a calisthenics program that has a small aerobic component that I can do at home. I will also walk my dogs at least 3 times a week for >20 minutes. From there, my intention is to work toward a more aerobic activity, like swimming or dance.
I logged my food and ate while sitting. I also read my advantage cards, modifying them to add the following (to the others I already shared):
Advantage card #1
Reasons I want to lose weight:
1) *It is a primary example of self-care and unconditional love for myself.
Reasons I want to exercise:
1) I will feel strong.
2) I will feel energy in my body.
3) I will decrease jiggle.
4) I will improve my weight loss.
5) I will breath easier (eventually).
6) It will enable me to be more active with my dogs and my husband.
7) It may lead to me being able to take the bus (feeling more comfortable biking on public roads).
8) I will be less prone to injuries.
9) I will decrease stress build-up.
10) My body will feel stretched.
11) I won't feel "less than" my exercising/healthy weight friends.
Tonight, I will eat dinner without any distractions and focus on enjoying every bite. Tomorrow we are going out of town, so during the car ride, I will create a meal plan for at least the next week.
Beach Patrol, major CREDIT for ditching the carrot cake!!!!!! Do you measure your food?
BillBlueEyes, CREDIT to you for staying on track in the midst of wastefully packaged little bits of synthetic sweets! I hear your on the 2-minutes thing. I broke down and set a timer on my bathroom counter.
CeeJay, CREDIT to you for staying on your plan. THIS TIME IS DIFFERENT! You can do it and we are all rooting for you. Maybe you could think about it in terms of staying on plan for the next few days. I have always fallen off around three weeks too. You can do it!!
ChinaMaine, between your habor talk and lobster talk I am dizzy with envy! CREDIT to you for getting to the doctor and also learning about how your body responds to high fat food now. I am really looking forward to that. I think it is so cool your mother-in-law was a WAVES. Was she a pilot too?
GardenerJoy, CREDIT to you for treating yourself without food.
LadyWindsong, see you soon!
Nuxmaga, your experience of turning the car around on the way to a cupcake is awe inspiring. Once I'm out of the house and headed there (at least previously), all bets are off. So, major CREDIT to you!
One by One, happy birthday. Your contented spirit is inspiring to me, bringing me some much needed thoughts of peace. You mentioned wanting to get your house in order. I have found this website (Flylady.com) to have some great tools to do just that. I know I don't have it all figured out yet, but this group of individuals has been really helpful and encouraging for the improvement I have made. http://www.flylady.net/
RobinW, I hope your presentation went well. CREDIT to you for realizing you need to prioritize yourself!
Have a nice weekend, everyone!
Things I'm Most Looking Forward To:
Buying stylish, not oversized clothes
Being a healthy role-model for my nephews, students, and godson
Horsebackriding without guilt
I joined the site recently and have been roaming around the forum trying to catch up on some old posts. I came across an ad in my newspaper for the Ideal Protein Diet. I attended a meeting this past week and was interested, but the cost was too much to handle right now. ($80+ a week).
This is a doctor run program. The doctor mentioned the Beck diet, which I ran to Barnes and Noble and purchased. I'm so glad I found you guys .
I'm fat and forty and have tried WW, Nutrasystem, Jenny, Bead Diet and all have proved successful with a 30-50 lb weight loss. I always gain it back though. I am 5'8" and 210 now. My magic number would be about 170, but WW says I need to be about 164 (at the high end). I can't wrap my head around why I can't maintain after a loss. I'm kind of treating this book like my life coach.
I need a buddy! Will you be my buddies?
Has anyone been on the program for a while? Hows it going? I'm not expecting a killer weightloss. I have come to realize I'm stuck in a viscious cycle. Help!!
Welcome. You will get a much better welcome from our Cyber Shepperd, BillBlueEyes, but for now, welcome from me.
What strikes me is our similar stats..I am 5' 7 and 1/2..and was always ~220#s ..I conquered my weight issue a bit later in life than you are now tackling yours.... but I have maintained an 80# loss... and now 90#s for ~ 7 plus years..I never really tracked..I never had a "this- is- it--this -is- the- day -I -change- my -life -day"..so I am really not too certain of dates/times. The point is, you *can change your life, you *can do it, and we here on the Beck thread are ALL ....to a woman..and one, very important man...*smile, BillBE, are here to support you. As you will learn from reading, just doing Beck ..is that the diet itself is immaterial..they all work, if you follow them. Beck strategies help you follow them..it is not about *what you eat, it is about *how you choose to behave.......and the great thing is, with Beck, it is all laid out..rote..if this, do that..just do it..behave the way Beck says to behave and you will be successful. It never ceases to amaze me that she sees it all coming..and helps you block off the obstacles..it is truly amazing..I only have the first book..that is all I ever needed...I had lost the wt. pre-Beck, but was back sliding..and once I picked up Beck, I just could not believe that she covered everything..every single thing that can sabotage us..and she wasn't even ever *that fat! But she has treated us, and she gets it.
We are all here, ready to be your diet coaches. If you just dive in and do it, you will be successful. My one word of caution is: avoid that perfectionist mentality trap. If you slip up, get back on track immediately..no big deal..just do it.