Mary, I was never good about limiting my vegetables, and the really helpful counselor at the COD said it didn't really matter a whole lot with most vegetables. With an extra serving being about 20 calories, really it is not a make or break deal thing with the weight loss. I've been on a plateau for almost 2 weeks myself and it is discouraging, but normal. I'm pretty sure that one of these days I will get on the scale and it will be down. I just never know when, and when I think I do know when it will be that almost jinxes the whole process. Exercising is definitely not any immeditiate fix to get the scale to move, but it is very helpful for fitting into your jeans.
Amy Jersey, I bet you've shrunk quite a bit. People notice when you are smaller, not when the scale goes down. That number is not written on our forehead or anything (thank goodness, I would absolutely be horrified if it were). So don't let a mechanical device (the evil scale) tell you that you are not succeeding when you are.
Hi Alannah, How is Chancey? Glad you missed the layoff. Maybe by next winter businesses will start picking up. Hope they are not just going to make everyone work longer hours for the same pay to make up for the layoffs, since that is the hardest... It seems like what is happening where I am, although there have not been any layoffs in my area, but about 20% of the people have left over the last year or so and not been replaced... All that work still needs to be done, and the ones left just have to absorb it all in. I'm salaried so no overtime for me, and lots of pressure to work long hours. They don't really think it is an issue until everyone is routinely working over 60 hours per week, which is way, way over what I want to work. Before that we are not being "utilized" to our "full potential".
Amy - yes that's me. Still doing the dog sharing. As a matter of fact I go get her tomorrow after work but I have her this weekend until Monday night as my ex is going away for the long weekend. So I get an extra day with the fuzzy bear.
The heat has hit here with a vengeance now. I like it around 25C or lower. This feels like 35C is for the birds. I hate it. But we still only get a day or two of somewhat sun and then usually 3-4 days of rain and showers. Its been doing that all summer and it's starting to get a little tiresome. 3 days of sun just once would be a real treat! LOL
Not a whole lot to report from today...just taking it easy tonight and relaxing.
I just need to vent. I have been working out for more than 3 weeks now and I haven't lost one pound. I know it's not all about the pounds, but ONE pound would be nice. I am not eatting 100% OP, but I am not eatting terribly either! I am not eatting anywhere near what I WANT to eat!
While food shopping today I passed te bakery section and was practically drooling. I thought to myself, I don't even eat any of that crap and yet I stay te same weight. Actually I weighed myself yesterday and was up 2.5 lbs. I didn't exercise last week and ate horribly as I was home at my mom's for a week. But the 3 weeks before that I was eatting well and working out.
I hate exercising with a passion (unless it's tennis.) So why keep exercising when it's not even paying off? I am so down! I don't know what to do.
I was considering joining WW and going to the meetings, but I don't think I will succeed. I did WW Online and didn't lose anything. Plus, with all the exercising I am doing, it will give me even more points to eat...
I don't know what to do guys. I guess I don't really want to lose weight deep down? Is that why I can't lose? But yet when I put my foot down and try to be happy with who I am now (all 237.5 lbs of me), I am not happy either. UGH. I think I have some major self-confidence issues to sort out!
I know how you feel Amy...when I was doing the Wii Active 30 day challenge (which I only made it through to Day 20 before injuring myself) I didn't lose a single pound! Super frustrating. I wish I had a solution...have you been taking measurements? There may be changes there. Or maybe it's just taking awhile for your body to catch up.
Sometimes with exercise too we end up more hungry and tend to eat more thinking it's ok because I exercised. When I began tracking that I realized I was still probably eating too much.
Another theory I am finding successful is a sort of calorie cycling only I am doing it with WW points. Some days you are just hungrier than others...on those days I will eat an extra 5 pts if I need to. Then the next day I might not eat all my points...leaders may not agree with this...but I dunno...it always keeps your body guessing so it never gets used to burning the same amount of calories everyday.
I had a rough day yesterday but didn't turn to food! Just found out from the mortgage broker that while I can get a mortgage on my own, that is only slightly less than what we are looking for...FH's credit hasn't been good for a long enough period...to include him on the mortgage would only hurt me they said....and I honestly want this to be something we do together so...looks like at least another 6 months living in the ****hole we live in, try to tackle some more debt and see where we are then. I really want us to have our own home to come back to after we gett married...which is about 9.5 months away....UGH!
On the weight loss front however, good news...down 2.4 lbs from last week! YAY! And TOM is about to start too!
Also, talked to FH last night as I want to get off birth control pills..been on em for 11 years and just sick of pumping hormones into my body. I'm starting to think they may be the culprit for my bloating, constipation, anxiety and mood swings. So....we've discussed non-hormonal methods as we don't want to get pregnant obviously. Feel good about all that...looking forward to seeing what I am like off those pills as I've never really known me without them!
Weight loss can be very frustrating. Everyone looses at different rates and in different places. Someone can loose 20 pounds go down 2 sizes and look amazing and then me loose 40 pound barely gone down 2 sizes. Some people can stop drinking soda and lose weight while others follow a strick plan and barely loose any at all. Don't even get me started on metabolism. I apparently don't have one at all. I was watching TV and a comedian was saying her metabolism was like a hibernating bear going through menopause. That is about how I feel sometimes.
So there is no easy solution, no magic pill, and no way to know when or if your hard work will ever pay off. But the only option left is to quit and if any of us really wanted to quit we would not be on this website. To me you have to figure out what works best for you and your body. It may take you trying every diet/weightloss plan out there but when it starts to work it will all be worth it.
Life is hard, life gets in the way and there are always going to be obstacles to distract you or to derail our weight loss plan. But you know what I decided 20 weeks ago that I am going to lose weight, I am going to keep it off and No one/nothing is going to stop me.
So here is my rant:
I am 32 years old, have 6 children, a husband, a home, a full time job that breaks my heart every single day and an extended family that depends on me greatly. I could make any number of valid excuses to stop eating right or to skip exercising. Right at this moment I have 3 sick kids, 5 kids to take to football practice every night, school starting monday, a wrecked car to get fixed, a house to clean and a baby on my case load who is in the hospital barely hanging on because her mothers boyfriend let her "accidently" fall off the bed and myself and co workers are staying at the hospital with her because there is no one else in this world she can depend on. I did the 30day shred last night and got up cleaned the bathroom and packed my lunch for today,took my kids to 3 different relatives, marinated some chicken for tonights dinner, went to the post office, put gas in the car and made arrangements to get my car fixed all before 8 am...
We are Women we can do anything!!!!
Amy- do not give up, your hard work will pay off. It takes time but in the end the results will be there. Use your on demand exercises, keep up your tennis and keep eating right. You can do it!!!
KristinX- great job on your 2.4lb you will be at yoru wedding goal in no time. The best way to bring your BF's credit up is to pay everything on time and to make sure your BF has some kind of Secured credit in his name and that the payments are current. That willmake all the difference.
Jersey: I wish I had a magic wand to cheer you up. The weight will come off if you will give it time, but you need to stop the self-doubting and get focused on the program. The little cheats are sabotaging your WL and making your self esteem drop. Once again, this is a life-style change, not a diet. Focus on the little victories and build on them. You are doing wonderful and you can't see it!, But WE CAN!!!! Don't give up.
Congrats Kristinx on the 2.4 lbs. Thats awesome!
Does anybody have an alternate to the expensive, 2 a day, protein bars? I am talking about the Luna's, South Beach, etc. I am looking for something I can maybe make myself (that's edible). I found a previous post from Dan for "Protein Power PB Cookies". I made the cookies last night and they are good, but not sure if they are a suitable sub. The Cookbook says 2 = 1/2 P, but when I did the math 2 = 190 calories, 8 grms protein. Which is close to the protein bars.
AmyM: OMG just reading that post made me tired. You don't need to exercise.
Wow Amy M..you ARE superwoman! lol Just reading that made me exhausted haha.
And yeah I am the financial planner is our relationship for sure. A year ago FH's credit was bad, a couple outstanding payday loans and no other credit. So I got him a secured credit card and we got the 2 debts paid off with release letters from the reporting agencies. So everything is good now...just it's only been 7 months since all that got straightened away so it was suggested we'd be better off to wait another 6 months to a year and attack some of my student debt to be in a better position when we buy a home. It probably is better but I just want to own something! Sick of paying rent instead of investing in a home...but I guess 6 months in the grand scheme of things isn't that bad...just a little pissy and embarassed that even though we make more than twice the average household income in our province we can't even get our **** together to get a house?
Also, talked to FH last night as I want to get off birth control pills..been on em for 11 years and just sick of pumping hormones into my body. I'm starting to think they may be the culprit for my bloating, constipation, anxiety and mood swings. So....we've discussed non-hormonal methods as we don't want to get pregnant obviously. Feel good about all that...looking forward to seeing what I am like off those pills as I've never really known me without them!
I can relate to this. Birth control pills started my slippery slope with weight gain, and also made me unable to conceive for 18 months after I stopped taking them. I know that this is TMI, but for 6 years, since my youngest was born, I have relied on the calendar and condoms, and have avoided pregnancy. I think that all of the hormones in the pills, patch, shot, etc, really screwed me up.
AmyM- I love you! And you are right, "We are women, and we CAN do anything!"
JersyAmy- Maybe you ought to consider talking to a counselor or getting hypnosis like Barbara did to help you with the self confidence part. I also love self affirmations. I have my clients do stuff like this all the time. Type up some positive things that you can put on the mirror, fridge, front door, etc, that you will see often everyday, to help you remember how special you really are. You know what? I am going to start a thread about this, see how many good ideas we can come up with.
Time to catch up with everyone well I ahve a minute.
Julie- SO glad you got your dog back. That is an amzing story. I can't imagine life without my dog. I had my other dog put down in May and I still think of him every morning. I enjoy everyday now with my little bichon. I still sometimes think he is a little lonely but I am not ready for another puppy yet.
DairyFairy- Sorry, don't know your name! I am so sorry to hear about your best friend and your brother. Hopefully your brothers results will come back okay. I will say a prayer for ya.
Barbara- When I was in Vegas, my kids talked me into buying some True Religion jeans. I was amazed they had my size...yup a 32 waist. They are fitted if you know what I mean so I have been on my treadmill this week and I have actually jogged 20 minutes each night. The sweat just pours but I really want these jeans to look good. I know that exercise helps me to lose inches so that is what I am working towards....
I figured if I bought them, it would give me a goal!!!!
Amy- I know the frustration with losing weight. I feel the same. I have also felt sometimes that I must not want it enough and thats why I can't lose weight. Other times I feel like its my metabolism. When I quit smoking, it took me many tries as well and then one day the light switch turned on and I decided never to smoke again and I stuck with it. I think the same thing will happen with weight loss. One day, a person will just figure it out. You just can't give up. Its a whole lifestyle change and it takes time. Hang in there. You are a big encouragement to me when I see how active you are.
Kristin- Congratulations with your weight loss!
As for me, I am working out this week and I am really trying to limit my evening eating. This is totally my downfall. I find that when I jog in the evening, it takes away my hunger and rather has me drinking water which is awesome. I am determined to lose 5 pounds by the end of August. Its a small attainable goal!!! I am going to do it for ME!!
Kristin - Congratulations on your impending pregnancy Just kidding! I had a flash back to when I was getting married and got off birth control, I was pregnant within 30 days of our marriage!!! I'm not trying to scare you, just be sure to do your research. I was on birth control for 10 yrs prior to getting pregnant and it didn't affect me one bit, I thought it would take a year for it to leave my system, boy was I wrong! One more thing, check out Dave Ramsey's book and website, we have TOTALLY flipped our life using his teachings!
AmyM - all I can say is WOW!
JerseyAmy - if Tennis is what you love most, do that! I have a sister that stays totally fit on tennis alone, she plays every chance she gets and is on more than one team. Maybe daily exercise in front of the TV is not for you... I've been working with a trainer and some people say that they absolutely LOVE doing that... I don't love it. I don't think I hate it, but I definitely don't love it and often find myself sabatoging myself by not giving 100% to it... I think a part of me is just rebellious about some guy telling me what to do, I already live with one of those! Anyway, find what you love and watch what you are eating, I am one of those people that feels like I can eat more when I exercise and in turn, I don't lose when I'm working out.
Thanks for your words of inspiration, I consider you true friends! I've been getting upset with a cousin of mine who keeps telling me what she did to lose 55 lbs after her second child and what she thinks I should do. I know she says it to try and help me, but I can't help getting annoyed at her!!
I need to come up with a plan that works for me. I know I do MUCH better when I am in school/work and am on a set schedule. I swear it's harder when you're home most of the day! I love to cook and don't want to give that up either... I am determined to start with my water, vitamins, a fruit and/or veggie with every meal, and working on my self-esteem.
I have come up with an exercise plan too. I figure I will work out 5 days a week. I will do 2 days of On Demand workouts (any as long as they're at least 20 mins.), 2 days of walking (tradmill or outside), and one day of Wii Fit. I haven't been playing my Wii or using hte Wii Fit as I say it's not enough exercise. Well, it's FUN! And if I count it as a day of my exercising, that's good!
I posted something I found online in the thread about loving ourselves. Thank you for starting that Katie, I NEED it!
Kristen- I understand what you're going through with a house. I want one SOOOO bad. I am living in my in-laws basement, there's not much worse than that! I want out!!! We're trying to knock down debt, we have about $4k left, then start looking in September or so.
Katie- thanks again for the advice and the thread. I am going to start today with affirmations to myself!
AmyM- You're incredible! Wow, I feel like a bum compared to you! I am so sorry to hear about that baby. I could never do the job you do, I would fall apart. It takes a STRONG woman!!
Julie- you inspired me to look up Tennis clubs in the area and join. I don't want to play by myself, but if I am in a league, that would be great!!
Joan- thanks for your advice. I agree, I need to figure this out myself!
DixieAmy- thank you too for your encouragement. YOu sound like my husband... he says "small victories" all the time! I need to start listening!!
wow! so cool to still see so many of the old clan here. I thought I really need to check in at least once every six months! I spend way too much time over at Facebook and most of that with 3fc people! haha....
