Beck Diet For Life/Solution – April 2009 – Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach

[angelmomma210]

Have to wait for authoirzation from the hospital to be able to go civilian. That should come in a few day. Will let you know.

[ChinaMaine]

Beck – WI-down .5 lb. – new low and met my mini-goal. I’ve set a new one for 181 lbs. Credit! Exercise – op. Food – op. Credit moi! It’s 5 days and counting since the last day I felt fatigue. Hopefully I’ll make it a full week without fatigue!

Jeanie Credit for eating reasonably in the stressful situation you are in. I think in a weird way losing your job might be a blessing. Maybe you’ll find the career that makes you happy in a way that PMing never will…

Anne Swimming, mountain biking – a great week – Credit! And it sounds like it was so beautiful! And sounds like even the 10% ‘off-plan’ was cool. Perhaps you are getting back in your groove.

angelmomma I wish you all the best, and that surgery goes well and happens quickly!

Bill Yes fruit and veggies do tend to fill up the fridge, so credit for clearing out some unneeded clutter. Wow-running like a kid again; what a lovely thought!

davidette Getting too tied up with how you look on vacation could end up sabotaging the wonderful groove you’ve gotten into in the last month or so… Can you concentrate on finding a few fun outfits and a bathing suit, but not focus on how you imagine others will see you? Like teaching the class, try to focus on turning the situation around with your attitude and not quick-fix weight loss? I’m just brainstorming, so it may not fit the bill for you. Just be careful of the path your anxiety is likely to lead you down… And great story about your skinny friend with complete lack of awareness of how she looks to others. Hmmmm-Perhaps something else to emulate there?

Tera Oh man – ouch! Your weight and body fat have not been showing all your hard work lately. But you are working hard so try, as best you can, to keep that in the forefront of your mind. 75% op walking to the managers office especially when payoff for your hard work isn’t immediately apparent. But you will see the benefits, I’m sure.

[bennyhannahmama]

Ack-- another couple of rough days. I waited all day yesterday to hear from my realtor and when I finally did and he told me everything was pointing to me getting the house, just waiting for the paperwork to prove it-- I panicked. Came home and realized I had gotten myself in over my head. Was so anxious I couldn't eat a thing if I wanted to. Ended up backing out of the house-- very relieved, but my head is still spinning.

Tonight I'm going to try to get some sleep so that I can get myself grounded again.

Thanks for all the replies (I just glanced through them!) and I hope to catch up with all of you very soon!

[AnneWonders]

Coaches/Buddies I finally met my 5 pound goal after two months of work. HOORAY! Mamma's got a new running shirt. New goal now set at 188, and thinking up my next reward for that. I have, get this, lost 3 of those pounds in the last 3 days. And I noticed today that my pants are roomy, not too big yet, but have a bit of space in them. This means the reality meter means that something "real" is happening.

To gain some perspective on what messing around and not sticking to plan consistently means, during this time period based on day to day weighings, I lost 23 pounds and gained 17 before I got from the top end to the bottom. 23 stinking pounds to net 5! Water weight fluctuations are driving some of that and are inevitable, but still. 17 extra pounds to lose. Extra! I don't need that. I figure I made the whole experience at least times as hard as it needed to be. If I need motivation for sticking to my plan, that's it.

Anyway, on plan for today, or legitimate substitutions anyway. By sticking to my plan I was able to have some nice, real, on-the-stove popcorn I budgeted. SO much better than the microwave stuff.

Exercise didn't happen today. I had a headache (of the tension variety) that woke me up at 3:30 a.m. followed by DH & DS getting up at 4, and then DD at 5. Didn't get back to sleep, so I'm a bit wiped now. Run (in new shirt) will now happen tomorrow.

I read my RCs, made my old goal card a Memory Card, made a new goal card, planned for tomorrow, including menu selection for lunch out with a friend. Tomorrow is my day off and I have almost nothing to do for once. Run, shop for sunglasses, eat. I plan to read and sleep.

On to personals...

[AnneWonders]

Chris I'm so sorry the meds aren't working and that you will be needing surgery! Hope you get the authorization you need.

Bill Wow! It worked for you! Three containers. Excellent. But were they good?

Here's to running for that light.

davidette Glad I could serve as inspiration, even if the reality of my ride deviates a bit from fearless jumping over rocks. LOL. The vacation sounds wonderful. No worries about the bathing suits. You're not vacationing in a beer commercial after all.

Tera Hope you had a blueberries smoothie to fight your blues. Sorry about your scale readings. I quit using my for BF% because it was even more variable and stupid than the weight variation. For laughs, assuming you have a bioimpedence measurement, check out your measured BF before and after a shower. Sending you supportive thoughts to laugh at that. Long term trends, remember.

ChinaMaine for mini-goals! And another for fatigue free days.

Kim Ouch on the house! Glad you got to the place you needed to be.

Anne

[davidette]

Tera CREDIT not pushing yourself with exercises; you've been patient with your body, you just have to be patient with the scale before it catches up. I know it's discouraging, we've all been there and will be again no doubt. Mine seems to have a very bizarre sense of humor; up when I'm sure it'll be down, etc.

chinamaine new low! Credit OP! no fatigue! You're in the groove! You're absolutely right - the way I look at this vacation will change the way it looks; it's a wonderful opportunity to feel really good about maintaining my new healthy habits and enjoy my increased stamina.

Good point about my skinny friend being unaware of how she looks, I was focused on how she eats and it would never have occurred to me. That's one of the many things I love about you guys, always showing me my blind spots!

Kim Glad you were able to back out of the house; it's easy to get excited and make a decision you later regret.

anne 5 pound goal! Enjoy that new shirt! Is reaching your goal counting from your highest weight to your lowest weight = 5? I have shown as much as a 6 pound increase overnight, so I hesitate to use that criteria for myself. I have been awarding myself charms for my bracelet for each month I stay on track and also each challenging event (like a vacation!) I get through successfully.

It's obvious I would do better to spend the next 8 weeks working on my attitude towards this vacation than on my appearance. Thanks for getting me started.

As if I don't have enough to work on, I've made a major commitment to give up diet coke. I'm one of those people who drink them constantly. I know enough about nutrition to know they are horrible for you, but the kicker was my sister lost 14 pounds since January just by giving them up! For no discernible reason, she felt nauseated after drinking them, stopped without even trying, and lost 14 pounds since then, again without making a conscious effort. She swears she does not have the food cravings she used to. Today will be my 4th day without and it hasn't been hard because I'm in NO CHOICE mode (sibling rivalry kicks in here, no doubt about it). The only difference I've noted is my stomach is much flatter without all that carbonation.

Today is water class; after reading about Anne's 40 degree swim, the water will feel steamy!

[BillBlueEyes]

Diet Coaches/Buddies - Went exploring to find an exercise class to work my core - hoping to get the encouragement that makes me work harder than working out alone without the cost of the personal trainer. So, tried my first Pilates class. Super Big Ouch. It works the core stuff big time. Seems like simple stuff. E.g., you lift your feet. No big deal. But then YOU JUST KEEP THEM THERE. FOREVER. Had a hard time trying to keep up, but CREDIT moi.

For dinner, I served myself a modest serving of DW's to-die-for mac and cheese. Then thought of seconds. Then didn't have them. CREDIT moi. And, when I packed up the remainder for the fridge, I didn't nibble. CREDIT moi again. But even as I type this morning, the thought flashes through my mind that I could take mac and cheese for lunch - like about a three cup serving!!!! Reminds me of the thought from someone (onebyone ?) that anything worth fighting fights back. Mac and cheese has an agent in my reptilian brain. Oh Well.


Anne (wndranne) - Congrats on the roomy pants and the new running shirt. And Kudos for the thorough plan for today.

Yep, any leftover from our fridge is something cooked by DW and yummy. The mix and match from three separate meals might not, however, meet with Martha Stewart's approval, LOL.


Tera (twilit tera) - Ouch for feeling blue; Kudos for planning a productive morning to counter that. Super Beck strategy there.

Chris (angelmomma210) - Wow, the fates have decided that waiting is what you should get a dose of. Sending supporting thoughts for all the waiting you're forced to do.

davidette - Yep, "It's all about making healthy habits, weight loss is a side effect." Perhaps you can distract yourself from wardrobe by taking a few quick Spanish lessons instead.

ChinaMaine - Yay for five days without fatigue. Congrats on the new low scale reading.

Kim (bennyhannamama) - Ouch for the emotional roller coaster on that house offer. Kudos for taking the path that gives you peace.

Readers -

Success Skill 6 experiment 6
Prove that you don't need to eat when you're upset.
...
Many emotional eaters feel out of control. Often they feel as if they don't have a chance - they have to eat.
...

The Complete Beck Diet for Life, pg 86

[RobinW]

Good Morning

I couldnt get in here all day yesterday. 3fc wouldnt load at all, here at home or on the pc at work.

Bill~ Big kudos for keeping control over the to-die-for mac and cheese...yup it was onebyone who said that. Kudos for your first pilates class. I had the same experience...oh this is easy. Until the next day, I was unbelievably sore

Anne~ WTG on reaching your 5lb goal!! Awesome start already on your next 5lbs too!

Ive got to get some catching up done....I'll come back later tonight. Things are getting busy already around here.

Have a great day everyone!

[AnneWonders]

Coaches/Buddies A quickie this morning, but it is BIG deal. My weight continues to drop like a rock ('bout stinking time) but as of this morning I am no longer obese.

Back tonight, with all the news that's fit to write. Prickly pears are starting to bloom--I'll try to get a picture up. They are my favorite.

Anne

[twilit tera]

Thursday Report

100% OP (food, supplements, ai, pool, 3FC, careful moving, electronics, bed)

Extra Credit: dusting off FitDay

WI: Down 3.5 pounds with 0.3% drop in BF

That's right, I'm going to start calorie counting. Gonna give it a shot, not worry about being unable to track when I can't conveniently reach my software - just do my best, knowing that perfection is not the aim.

My ultrasound device arrived today. The instructions are exceedingly simple. I'm in quite a bit of pain now, so I'm going to finish this post and try it out.

Mood is better today than yesterday.

ChinaMaine: minigoal and OP! Yahoo no fatigue for 5 days!

Thanks for the encouragement. I need all the cheerleaders I get! I feel really good about not letting the temporary boost in weight (probably water from a salty dinner the night before) lead to sabotaging my plans.

After that huge drop, I'll probably resettle somewhere between the new low and where I was yesterday.

Kim: Great photo! No worries about the house. Have you been looking for a new home long? Have you sat down and really thought about what you want in your living space?

And OMG, I just looked at your ticker! You are so close to making your goal!

Anne: you too! Yay for another minigoal and for leaving behind an entire CATEGORY!! Yay for a new running shirt! Two months to take off those 5 pounds - I think the biggest kudos are for sticking with it come heck or high water!

Brilliant analysis too. Very inspirational. Thank you for sharing it, it might help me stick to calorie counting.

Sorry to hear about the head pain. Big fat for CBT exercises!!

I'm not sure whether I'll be paying much attention to the fat% monitor either. I am for now... I'm just much more concerned with my level of fitness than my weight. Fat% seems like a better measure of fitness to me, but only if I can get a reliable reading.

Davidette: Your scale sounds like my math/biology scores. The more confident I am in my performance, the worse it is... maybe we should just create an artificial state of nervousness whenever we get assessed, just to fool the instrument of measurement.

Good luck on giving up diet coke. I'm still drinking about 1-2 sodas a day, though hopefully they're not as bad as diet coke, being sweetened with splenda and 0 caffeine? (Please tell me I'm not just fooling myself)

Bill: pilates class! That sounds so difficult!! I'm sure you lasted longer than I could possibly hope to! for resisting temptation for 2nds.

Yesterday, our ducks, (yes, Mallards) were with us all day. With friends (huge black and white ducks - Muscovies maybe?). I had B pick up some cheaper bread at the store so I wouldn't spend all my good 100% whole wheat bread on feeding them.

Robin:

[Athenawithheart]

Hi, everyone. I'm new to 3FC.

I'm *also* new to the Complete Beck Diet book. I'm about two-thirds of the way through. I cannot BELIEVE I didn't know about this book sooner, considering I even heard Dr. Beck speak once.

The concepts are awesome. "Hunger is not an emergency" has keep me from going off plan so many times in the past month, and it finally got me past my 190 barrier.

I am in the beginning stages of divorce, and it's actually funny, because when I heard about this book I immediately knew I had to get it. And he made fun of me up and down about how many diet books I have, and how I'm still overweight despite them, and that it's just a joke and save the money.

Well, pooh pooh, I bought it anyway, and now I'm free and fabulous and loving life!

Victory for today: Around 10 a.m., I started getting a bit hungry. I thought I'd go grab some carrots and grapes out of the fridge, but then I forgot and I realized 20 minutes later I wasn't even hungry. How cool is that?

So, I look forward to getting to know everyone and using this book to keep my thinking right.

[Athenawithheart]

Pilates is so deceptively hard! I try to do it at least once a week, but I've been a little lax in the past two weeks, so I better give it another go!

[RobinW]

its 7pm and Im still here at the shop printing t-shirts
So that means Im not getting my grocery shopping done, or any cooking I wanted to do this weekend. (Im coming in tomorrow too) There is just so much to do. Unfortunately promising folks items very quickly is what is happening to keep the customer from going someplace else.

Ive been reading and catching up with everyone inbetween prints.

One of the biggie issues I am obviously having, is making "time" to diet. While I was sitting here pondering this and eating my sub for supper, I decided I really cant make that dedication until sunday. That is only if I get everything done saturday here at the shop and dont have to go in on sunday. Stinks, but that is where I am right now.

Im trying to figure out a way to fit or budget my "me" time in. Getting up earlier in the morning is just not something Im willing to do. Ive tried it before, and it's literally wasted time. Im sooooooo NOT a morning person.

Im thinking that my evenings are the best. I can try to schedule things better then. I dont watch much tv....usually just wednesday and sunday nights. So it certainly wont hurt me to stay off the couch and be productive.

Something to think about and work on, on sunday....when Im putting my life back in order.

Im off...have a great evening everyone!

[onebyone]

Originally Posted by RobinW

One of the biggie issues I am obviously having, is making "time" to diet...

Im trying to figure out a way to fit or budget my "me" time in.

Hi everyone.
Hey RobinW I read what you wrote and thought "oh yeah she's in the same space I'm in." I am really stressed out and when i take time to de-stress I feel bad for doing nothing when I have so much to do. I can do it, sit still, relax and all that but I really DO have many things, many deadlines to meet in oh three weeks. I have 20+ more linoleum blocks to carve and then I have to make a giant print, or two, of them. I have an animation video to complete and I have done no work on that since I previewed it in class weeks ago now..and then the teacher freaked me out by asking me how I was going to display it during the grad show.
Huh?
oh yeah, it's an installation piece so...how am I going to do that? Well for the "Interview with Macaroni" I am going to project the video image onto a framed macaroni artwork. So I went out got $26 worth of pasta and will set myself the task of making an iconic Canadian landscape "painting" with macaroni over the weekend. Of course I also have to go into the school and work in the ceramic room for my job, and I have to go into the print room and prepare two printmaking sheets with photosensitive liquid to use on Monday for class and I have to wash out my silkscreen to use this to complete another artwork...and the one day summer art in the park show my friend and I are going to run is demanding a bit of attention. Our first "Welcome to the show; hi we're new! You can sign up now..." notices should go out over the weekend. I took time to call the city person in charge to straighten out some details that stumped us on our contract for the city park space, so that's done and now it's just fax me the forms, I sign and fax back, and she faxes back the final version. And we have the park booked for one day in mid July.

There's more on my to-do list as this just represents 3 of my five classes, not to mention trying to figure out the market situation this summer and dealing with applying to the farmers' markets and needing stock to take pictures of to get this done.

EVERYTHING is due at the end of the month.

My weight is now settling at 265-a new high.
So, like RobinW I have got to get a handle on this. Of course, my TOM is delayed with all this stress so part of this weight is water (I think?) but it feels so permanent.

Now, on the plus side , I just have to get through the next few weeks and I am done! Done done done. A graduate with a shiny new diploma.

And, I don't even know if I told you guys, I won a scholarship! I won the Mixed Media award for my books. I didn't get chosen to represent the school with one of my astronaut paintings but I did win something. And that's a good feeling. I really wanted to be able to list another award after last year's win.

So, once more, thanks for listening. I get so discouraged in spite of all my success because I cannot succeed with losing any pounds. It's like I have a mental block and I tell you, I am feeling the extra poundage. Extra weight and extra stress are not a healthy mix. So I keep trying but not seriously enough. But I'm not going anywhere and I am not giving up. I'm not.

[RobinW]

Holy Smokes onebyone!!!!

I have to give you big big congrats on your scholarship for your books!! That is so cool!!

I wanted to talk about this comment you made...

I get so discouraged in spite of all my success because I cannot succeed with losing any pounds. It's like I have a mental block and I tell you, I am feeling the extra poundage. Extra weight and extra stress are not a healthy mix. So I keep trying but not seriously enough. But I'm not going anywhere and I am not giving up. I'm not.

I dont know if this is a "woman" thing or just something we have "learned" My husband is constantly reminding me of all the good Ive done. Even tho I cant seem to wittle the lbs off. I was even reminded last sunday by someone we havent seen since we first opened the shop. He mentioned the newsletter and how good it was that I was doing so much for the community. You know? I never seen it that way. I seen it as a way to help ourselves and at the same time helping others. Do I still feel like a failure? Yes because I cannot seem to stick to my woe! The one thing that will make me healthy and keep my stress under control. Oh well....I'll get it one of these days.

I think its very good tho onebyone, that you and I are at least recognizing what is going on, and knowing we need to address our issues. *sigh* we both need wives to take care of the "other" things that need getting done too that we are too tired to do. Like laundry, cooking and cleaning I'll keep the other wifely duties

Well as for me, I got home by 8:30 and Im going in tomorrow for 9. We dont open til noon on saturdays, but I want to get caught up and get out. I want want want to get my list done so that I will have sunday to myself to get my plan back together.

......I have to admit, the one thing that stops me cold when I work like this is my back. I pushed it a bit far today. Moving literaly within a 6ft space for 8 hrs is very hard on my back/everything

K.....I have one more complaint!! I finally got to the hairdresser to get my hair cut, and they did a seriously botched job!!! Ive had swampwitch hair for 3 weeks! Ive been doing the clippy thing ever since!!

Ha! Im off before I get on a roll

Oh wait I forgot to tell you!! I signed on for another committe to help plan this big honkin' trade show. I may need to mainline pinot grigio by the end of the summer!

Im going to give myself a kudos before I sign off......I bought some nice sprouts to go on my sandwich for lunch! Seriously tastey! Kudos to me for craving something green and good for me.

Good night......I'll be back tomorrow sometime!

onebyone pm me with your email if you want to keep in touch and support each others nutty lives