I basiclly eat whatever I want and justitfy that I've burned the calories but I'm not losing any weight.
yeah ... as you can see, that just doesn't work.
What you eat plays a HUGE role in losing weight. I posted this on someone else's thread, but I'll post it again here.
Say you do 30 minutes of cardio/weights. You'll probably burn 300-500 calories (depending on your weight and the intensity). Let's say 400 as an average. Assuming you work out 5 days a week, that means you're burning 2000 calories a week in exercise.
You need to burn 3500 calories to lose 1lb.
So. With the exercise, you've burned off 60% of 1lb.
If you are not paying attention to what you're eating, then you're probably eating back those 2000 calories and more, so of course you're not going to lose weight.
The ONLY way to lose weight is to consume fewer calories than you burn. That's it. You can use whatever diet plan you want - South Beach, WW, Atkins, or plain old calorie counting (which is what I do), but ultimately all they do is provide you with a mechanism or structure for Eating Fewer Calories.
If you want to lose more weight, and lose it faster (and you shouldn't lose faster than 1-2 lbs per week, if you want to be healthy about it), then you need to combine diet and exercise. And if you're "justifying" eating anything you want ... you're not going to lose. I promise you ... it won't happen.