thanks for your input Joni and Amy. I, too, like hangin' out with the guys........I just don't want to go show up and have them feel like Scott can never get out w/o me. He gets a lot of pressure from them cuz they go out a lot, and he does not. Also, he never used to even tell me that he wanted to go out......so it is a big step for him to actually tell me that he wanted to. He used to make it seem like he almost had to.......but anyway, I am over it now. I think I just need to seriously work on my social life. It is not fair for me to be angry at him because of my lack of fun.....lol. He is a good guy........and these guys he works with aren't so great......so I hate that. One of them is really nice and enjoys visiting with me.....the others are kind of standoffish...........like they are going to get girl germs or something.....lol. Anywhoooo, I also do love to have time to myself......my only problem with that is, by the time I get alone, DH will probably be home......and if he had a couple of beers.........I won't be "alone" for long Not complaining........but you know how precious alone time is
Joni.......how is work going? Did you see Kim is back? I'll give that a whooohoo!!!
Nicole, I think it is because you've waited around for so long for him to finally come home and spend some adult time with you, it is just natural that you resent when he takes his fine adult self off and spends it with other people. I know that I have gotten out of the habit of going out with the girls. It is hard when you are busy being mom to take time for yourself. My TO went pretty well. Although I didn't really lose much weight... Just the mystery two pounds that showed up last week came back off. I think I'm done cutting back on exercise.. it didn't work at all.. so back to exercising like a banshee.. Plus I signed up for a challenge at work to walk 50 miles over the next month, so that will mean a lot of extra tread mill time for me.. I already got the first 5 miles in this morning. Only 45 left to go.
Kim, 1 year, that is something isn't it. When I hit a year, it really felt like I'd made a permanent change.. since here I am 13 months after still doing it.
Have been MIA for a few days as work has been super busy.
Silly me, I forgot to take notes as I was reading all the posts I missed so I’m just going from memory here.
Jillian – Love the new ‘do.
Lisa – The baby bunting bag is really cute. I have knit a few things for myself in the past, but have never had the courage to knit something for someone else. I did decide to cross-stitch a quilt and matching bibs for my nephews significant other – baby is due right after the new year. We’ll see if I’ve given myself enough time or if I’m being just plain crazy thinking I can get it done in time.
Kim – Happy anniversary! I just hope I look even half as good as you after my one year anniversary.
A shout out to everyone else – Nicole, Dan, Liz, Barbara, Krista, Amy, Katy, Joni and all others that I missed right now. Here’s to a POP day!
hey nicole, I feel for ya! I felt that way for the first 15 years of our marrage at least....... but now I really focus on alone time to the point that if his plans fall though I feel cheated. I like to watch what I want to watch without getting teased, I like to be in control of the remote!!! he is a male channel surfer..... the worst! if he is gone for a meal, I like to take advantage of serving "kid food" instead of a big meal like he likes. I like to be able to wear baggy sweats or not put on makeup..... not that I always do when he is here.... but when he is here I am more aware of how I look for him, and sometimes it is nice to know, nobody is looking! find some things you like, and save them for when he goes out. special things that you can only have when he is gone.
oops got to run. later! there are other things I want to tell ya'll but I have parent teacher conference. and I'm late!
Hi gang! I think I finished my day okay yesterday despite my lunch time fiasco....thanks for all the words of advice Funny how you know exactly what you are doing but wait until afterward to freak out and feel guilty.
Liza - the bunting is adorable! I don't have the patience for that kind of work and admire anyone who does.
Kim 2 - you have to be on pins and needles about the wedding. Good thing you like your new DDIL. Can't wait to see some pictures Congrats on your year anniversary with LA!
Dan - Good advice on mixing things up when you are at a plateau. I think that is part of my problem as well. I'm eating the same old things which makes me want to stray from plan since it isn't satisfying my "taste buds". I'm never hungry, just think boy wouldn't a bite of that taste good.
Hi Joni - glad you could drop in during your trip.
Amy - congrats on stabilization and the loss that came with it
AmyLou - welcome back!
Nicole - sorry your DH upset you, boy they are good at that aren't they? Sorry Dan Like everyone said, try to enjoy the alone time....we wives and moms get that so seldom
A big hello to everyone else out there that I've missed. Good luck staying on plan today!
Nicole - I totally understand your rant about DH going out after work. My DH pulls that crap all the time and half the time I don’t even know about it until he gets home. I never really know his work schedule because he works crazy hours. See my DH is a golf pro, so after his official “work” hours he often times does PR with club members after work or meets up with buddies on the course or at the 19th hole. It drives me insane and I think what bother me the most is the fact that I can’t do that. I never have that kind of freedom because I have a set schedule for everything. I have a set wake up time, a set get ready and “get the kids to school / daycare” time, a set drive time, a set work time, a set time to pick the kids up, a set time to make supper, do homework, do baths and get the kids to bed. DH rarely has to worry about any of that. It also bothers me because DS waits for DH to get home in the evenings and when he tells us he’ll be home at a certain time and he’s not, DS gets upset at me because I’m the messenger. I realize a lot of my DH’s social life is part of having a successful career but it’s just not fair sometimes. Good thing the golf season is almost over here in Minnesota!
hey nicole, I feel for ya! I felt that way for the first 15 years of our marrage at least....... but now I really focus on alone time to the point that if his plans fall though I feel cheated. I like to watch what I want to watch without getting teased, I like to be in control of the remote!!! he is a male channel surfer..... the worst! if he is gone for a meal, I like to take advantage of serving "kid food" instead of a big meal like he likes. I like to be able to wear baggy sweats or not put on makeup..... not that I always do when he is here.... but when he is here I am more aware of how I look for him, and sometimes it is nice to know, nobody is looking! find some things you like, and save them for when he goes out. special things that you can only have when he is gone.
oops got to run. later! there are other things I want to tell ya'll but I have parent teacher conference. and I'm late!
Wait... You take advantage of the time when he's NOT there to wear baggy sweats and no makeup? I think Liz has things backwards, then ...
Well today is my first day of the 5 day plateau breaker. Darling DH went to the store last night to get me a few things for the plan. I am really going to stick to it. It will be hard because I am a social person and like to do lunches and such with co-workers, with good choices of course. But this week, I have to be good and not go out.
Nicole - I can understand where you are coming from. Dan doesn't go out hardly at all but he does travel and that got to me for a while. Now I make do because I know that is his job. It isn't always easy because like Dawn I have a set schedule. I get up, get the kids their breakfast, get them to school, get to work, pick them up for after school things like soccer or TKD and then homework. He does help with the showers and bed time, so can't complain there. And I have been going out with friends more than he has on Thursday's after work. I think it doesn't bother him because he is making up for times when he is out of town for days at a time and I have to do everything. Or it does bother him and he just puts up with it.
Anyway, wish me luck and lots of will power. I have to get some work done now and will talk again later.
I encourage her to go out (even if it is "with the guys"), as she doesn't get out much with all the other chores I make her do. Ahem...
But seriously, she's right about all the things she has to do because of my schedule. I know it's hard on her, especially when I leave town... Luckily I'm not gone as much as some of my co-workers, but it can still be a hardship. We're both lucky that her job allows her to be flexible with her schedule.
Sometimes, however, that makes eating a challenge, so we really have to support each other when it comes to making good choices.. I rag on her a lot about eating out. Even though she almost always eats according to plan, anytime you eat out, you have no control over how that food is prepared, or what the nutrient content of the food is...
Nicole-I know I'm a little late on the draw here, but I completely understand where you're coming from. My DH works really weird hours. Some days(like last night) he doesn't get home till after I've went to bed. Other days he's home before I get home from work. So, on those seldom days that he gets home early I want him to spend time with me & our family and it burns me up when he wants to go out with "the guys". I hope you did something last night to treat yourself!
Good news for me! I stayed POP for the last 2 days. Let's hope today will be the same. I'm looking forward to seeing a drop in the scale come Saturday.
I decided a long time ago that men and women are simply different. I embrace our differences most of the time. Somedays that is more difficult than others. I love being a mom, and I love being a stay at home mom. I am living my dream, and that makes me so happy. DH does go out of town a lot.....and he does the whole, "building the customer relationship on the company credit card," thing every now and then too. It is part of his job, and I have learned to deal with it. I try so hard not to make him feel bad about it, and I know he appreciates that. We have a great respect for one another......and that is what makes this family work. Anywhooo, I was complaining about him not being home and leaving me alone, and would you know, he called me twice from dinner and casino to see if I wanted to meet them It was not an obligatory invitation........and that made me feel so much better. I declined as I knew he needed a night out, and I was a little bit tired. I had a hard time deciding......but it was all good. He had a nice time.
Lettie and Dawn.......I think it is more difficult to deal with when there are babies in the house. Now that YDS is almost 3......it is a lot less stressful for me to be home all night alone. So I hear ya on that one
So, today is the day for me to stay OP. My jeans are feeling a bit snug.......and that's no good. I hope you all have a great day
XOXO
Krista...........Dove Give Into Mint icecream kept me company last night........I know, naughty naughty. Today is a new day.......and I have been such a slacker.......but no more.........back to POP for me
Oh Nicole... Mint Ice Cream.. the kind with chocolate in it? My favorite... Yummy yum yum... I think I will tell my DH that I want some of that for my birthday. Of course that is months away (in Feb), so I have plenty of time to anticipate.
I decided that for Halloween I will allow myself one bag of M&M's. Perhaps I will miraculously get my weight back down to goal before Halloween. Although 6 weeks back on weight loss and a 1 pound net gain in that time does not exactly seem likely that I will drop 4 pounds in 2 weeks, but I'm due to see a good drop here sometime. I'm just due you know... I think I will drink a ton of water today and see if that makes the scale be kind tomorrow. Right now any sign of any downward scale movement would be a blessing.
So I skipped spin cycling class this morning. Sometimes 5:45AM is just hard to get up and do... Oh and if you don't get to class 15 minutes before it starts they run out of bikes, so you have to be out the door by 5:20 to get there in time. So tonight I will be going to the gym and trying to add to my mileage for my 50 miles by Nov 15th challenge. So I'm definitely going to be upping my working out over the next month. Got to burn that bag of M&M's in advance... although really, I entered my weight on the tread mill yesterday (usually don't do that since even at goal I hate for people to see my weight and it doesn't calculate the number of calories you burn without your weight in there)and it said I burned off 700 calories... so that is like 2 bags of M&M's I think... So if I run the whole 50 miles.. that is 7000 calories.. oh my gosh... 50 miles of running is only 2 pounds! No wonder it is so darned hard to lose the weight...
Lucia, I think we all fell in love with the 2 pounds a week fantasy, it is oh so seductive. Some bodies are just slower to lose weight. Mine is one of those bodies. The thing is that slower is not the same as impossible. Losing slowly is the so much healthier. You are most likely losing all fat. Take out the equivalent amount of butter... 3 sticks a week is what is going from your body every week, 12 sticks a month. Think about how hard your body has to work to rearrange itself for the loss. Think about the healing that is going on inside your body as you eat healthier and all the inflamation and problems that being overweight were previously causing in your body are healed. I truly believe we plateau sometimes because our bodies are busy healing from the previous damage and weight loss is not the first priority. Now, I do think that trying something new or mixing up your menu can wake your body out of its slumber and on to greater weight loss. Long term weight loss is all about persistence. It is not a race to get to a goal weight, although the COD treats it like that... but really now that I'm maintaining, it matters not that it took me a long time to get to here, it matters that I can do this for the rest of my life. You can't have the mind set that you can't wait until this is over, since if you want to keep off the weight, there is no over. It is a permanent life style change.
I copied this from another thread because I think it is a very good reminder to all of us what this fight is all about
XOXO
Hi everyone! So far so good one being back on track. It's weird, but being home is easier for me to stay POP than at work. I hardly ever think about eating. Of course, not a lot of stress here at the moment.... except that the dog has been yakking all morning. lovely. Went out on a 'date' with DH last night - saw the Heartbreak Kid - it was really funny, in a Ben Stiller/Farrelly brothers kind of way. I was good - no popcorn, just my daily allotment of Diet Pepsi.
Kim2 - I can't believe that the wedding is here! Your dress is beautiful - have a great time!
Krista - I'm sorry you haven't seen any losses in a few weeks - that happens to me too. Stick it out! I did read somewhere that your body needs to re-adjust after you lose 10% of your body weight, and by your ticker that's right where you are, so maybe that's true.
Nicole - I am usually just the opposite when DH goes out (which is rarely) - but lately I've been really bummed out when he does. I think it is because I am not at work right now, and he's kind of my social connection. I think what you need to do is come here for a weekend. We will have fun and your DH will miss you so much that he won't want to go out with his friends!
Liz - good luck with your plateau breaker. Hey - it's only 5 days, right? We can do anything for 5 days. You can go out when you are thinner next week.
Barbara - Amen on the exerpt that Nicole posted. I was rarely at the 2lb/week average. That went by the wayside after a few weeks, but I still lost, which in the big picture is the most important thing.
I missed my Body Pump class this morning because my SIL called (DH's sister) - she is going through some bad stuff with her DH, and she's reeling. She called to ask a quick question, and it turned into a 45 minute conversation. At one point I was actually in the car, preparing to drive to the gym until I realized that I was on our house phone and not my cell. Twenty seven years of marriage and her husband tells her he doesn't love her anymore, but he likes the family facade that they have, so he is just mean to her in private. I feel really bad for her, and I can't imagine what she is going through.
Not complaining........but you know how precious alone time is 
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