Joan:
I have had feelings of animosity towards thin woman, only out of jealousy though. I have been thin and heavy and thin and heavy. I notice that people definitely treat me differently, depending on my weight, which does help me keep a perspective. Sometimes I am just directing anger at myself (for not controlling my weight, not noticing I've been gaining) at a thin woman. It's not her fault. I am especially jealous or resentful of those who seem to have such an easy time maintaining their weight, thinness . . . for those who make it seem effortless.
I have been overweight most of my life (starting at age 14). I am 5'-5", 190 . . similar to yourself. But I have weighed as little as 128 and I was at 135 5 years ago. I don't know how or what affected me to punish myself like this. I have had the normal struggles of everyday life, just like everyone else, and a few less than normal ones. But, I just want to care for myself like I do for everyone else around me. It seems when it comes time for me, I'm too tired to eat the right food, exercise, etc.
On the upside, I have been getting great support from this website and have been really working at putting myself first. I haven't been weighing myself yet, but I plan to start. I have been adjusting my eating habits, cleaning out my pantry and creating a plan. I am taking a real estate class which has helped my self-esteem. I am creating more for myself so I don't eat in place of what I truly need. Keep checking in on this site, there's lots of valuable information and support. Best of luck to you!