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Originally Posted by DayWithoutDieting
Any tips on the motivation part? Especially in a relationship? It's hard (for me at least) to keep in mind that I should be happy with myself too, not just my boyfriend, but it's difficult.
I guess that's why it seems like everyone has problems with weight..
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I'm lucky to have a husband who's fully on board with my weight loss goals and is following the same plan I am to lead a healthy lifestyle. We're both logging calories and following the same rewards system, and so far it's going really well.
I've known for a while of course that I have a weight problem, but I was feeling really jaded about the idea of losing any weight - actually, terrified of losing weight because every time I've done so in the past I've gained it back with interest. So it took me a long time to agree to a plan, and when I did I made it intentionally conservative and slow-paced so I will feel like I'm in control, but have leeway for going out of control on a limited basis (if that makes sense).
But before I even got to that point, I had to realize how my weight was affecting my husband. He loves me, and he's committed to me, and I have never felt otherwise... but I noticed an obvious decrease in the sexual/lust side of our relationship. I simply was and am not the girl he met 13 years ago, or the woman he married (although by then I was already significantly overweight). And that's something we've both had to deal with.
So for me, yes, I already knew I was overweight, and I already knew my reasons to lose weight, but adding another person's needs to my own was what really spurred me to do something.
If it's of any help, here are my reasons to lose weight:
- I have congenital heart problems and don't want to develop high blood pressure, diabetes, high cholesterol, or other issues that would make my condition worse.
- My husband and I would like to have children. Losing weight is apparently helpful for an easier pregnancy and for childbirth.
- I would like to have more energy, and more stamina to do more activities
- I would like to fit into normal-sized clothing so it's easier to shop for clothes
I'm sure you have more reasons for yourself. If you're a visual person you could consider making a goal board/collage with pictures of all the things you want to be able to do, and stuff like that. It works for one of my friends.