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Old 04-03-2013, 02:05 AM   #1
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I'm 19 and I weigh about 160, when I was a freshman in highschool I weighed about 154 and was a size 12/14 in pants. I hated getting dressed for school and going out because I wasn't comfortable with how I looked. I started to not eat and I joined the softball team and lost about 30 pounds and got down to a size 5, and I once again felt comfortable in my own skin. But then my mom passed away and everything in my life was changing and I started gaining weight like crazy. Within these past 5 years I have gained a lot of weight then dropped it, and gained it back. I tried getting my life back on track and I got to a size 6 pants but now i'm getting back up to 12/14 and I can't stand to look at myself. I'm tired of wearing baggy clothes to hide myself from everyone, and i'm hoping this site can provide some tips, information and support to help me get back to a comfortable weight.

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Old 04-03-2013, 03:26 AM   #2
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Hi Rachel! Welcome.

You've been through a lot. Be kind to yourself. Nourish yourself.

My first piece of advice to you is love yourself. You deserve it. Learn to love your body just as it is. Not for what it looks like but for what it can do. Yep, you can seek to improve your body - but do it from a place a love rather than hate.

I spent my youth hating on my body and looks and I look back now and think "Dang, wish I'd appreciated what I had."

My second piece of advice is to learn to dress to accentuate your positive assets and not to hide the negative. Life is lot more fun that way. It isn't easy and you'll make some mistakes along the way - but it's a skill that will take you a long way in life. Don't cover up, draw the eye to the good!!! I can't give you specific advice because I don't know your body shape, etc.

My 3rd piece of advice is join a team. It worked before, it can work again. If you're in college there must be all kinds of teams you can join. If not, check out community sports. If you are at university, can I give a plug for women's rugby? It's awesome and there are all sorts of body shapes on a team. I have lost over 30 lbs since starting to play rugby and I'm stronger, fitter and faster. And I'm having so much fun.

But even if you dont join a team, find some kind of physical activity that you love.

My final piece of advice is to find a way to center yourself emotionally. This isn't easy. You'll be working on this the rest of your life. Find a way to comfort yourself that isn't food. You gain and lose. Gain and lose. That's what I did, too. I had a terrible relationship with food and look how fat I am now! If I could have developed a normal relationship with food when I was your age I'd be so much healthier and thinner now.

Read up on intuitive eating. You may not be ready for this yet. But if you are it will be a gift. Whatever you do, don't starve yourself.
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Old 04-03-2013, 11:59 AM   #3
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Hi Rachel! Welcome to 3FC
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Old 04-04-2013, 02:15 AM   #4
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Welcome and good luck on your journey!!

I'm sorry to hear about your mom passing away
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