Hi everyone, I decided to join today because I have never been able to speak freely to anyone about my struggles, not even my best friend(my husband). I am 34, 256 lbs, married 15 yrs, mother of a 6 yr old girl and a 5 month old boy. I just got denied today for the lap band, my insurance wants me to do 6 months of weight watchers first, makes alot of sense right? STUPID!!!!!! Sooo... I just stuffed myself with chocolate chip pancakes and cried, but now it is time to get my butt in gear and take care of this my self. I am gonna do Atkins or something similar. This is gonna be a struggle
Sorry to hear they denied it. That's frustrating and disheartening. Is insurance going to pay for WW? I would be all over that if so. LOL
It's so overwhelming looking at the big picture... but making yourself little goals and taking it in pieces makes it somewhat more bearable.
Posting here has helped me tremendously!
I started about the same as you, and already feel like I am so much closer to where I want to be... every day the mountain gets a little smaller.
(the tickers become available after you've been here 20 days I believe and have 20 (?) posts)
Hi Lillypad! Welcome to 3FC. You've stumbled upon a great support network! People here can help and support you with virtually any queries or concerns about any diet, type of exercise, willpower, personal struggles and anything else you just want to talk about.
You say you want to try Atkins - are refined carbs your problem food, would you say? White bread, pasta, potatoes, cakes, etc?
Hey there Lilly! I've learned to take it one day at a time. I rejoice just as much if I have a whole day on plan, with no cheating, as I do when I get on the scale and have lost weight! I'm trying to look at the big picture, which is the journey, because I know there will never truly be a destination! Once you get there, you maintain, and you need all your healthy habits memorized to do that the rest of your life
Think of it as an adventure towards a new you, not a struggle - the things we tell ourselves have a huge impact on the way we feel and act. . . be as supportive and encouraging to yourself as you would be to a friend.
I also agree with DaugT - baby steps are great - ever since I've stopped telling myself I have to lose close to 100 lbs to be at my goal, and instead give myself a "reward" at every 10 lb mark, this "way of eating" has been much easier for me.
The best of luck to you on your journey - you can do it!
Thank you everyone, it's great to have somewhere to go and know that you girls totally understand what I go through!! My family just doesn't get it. Yes WW is covered for six months thru insurance(I pay $20 for every 5 weeks) But yes the carbs are my major problem, so WW doesn't cut it for me. I have to go hard core like Atkins in order to get my body under control. I did it before I got pregnant and lost around 25 lbs, then got pregnant, it's been 5 months since baby was born and I am at day of birth weight again I love the support, thanks again girls!!
Disgusted and ready for new me!
I love the support, thanks again girls!! 
