'Ello Heather
We're about the same hight and weight, So I know what you are feeling right now. Being trapped inside a body that dosn't feel right.
But everyone is different so what works for me (once I find it)..may not work for you. So all i can say is try, try, try. Everyone, has something that works for them.
I second the calorie counting. It sounds like a chore, but try it for a week. I thought I knew what I was eating, turns out I was WAY over what I should be eating. It's very important to learn how many caloires you're eating Vs. how many you are burning. knowing your BMR is a good tool. (the calories you burn just living, breathing ect.) I try to eat just under that many calories (which puts me at 1600 calories a day)
good luck. remember baby steps are better than no steps at all.. or impossible giant steps.