Hey there!
I think when we find ourselves hiding things from others, it's because we know it's "not right" in some way--and that really has to do with us, not with the other people. Maybe you are feeling like you need something to cheer you up during the day, I don't know. But I do know that eating pastries long term is not a good idea!
Your husband would not "die" if he knew about it. Interesting choice of words, though...
Good luck with your weight loss journey! I hope you and your husband both can improve your eating and get fit--that's the main thing.
Jay