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watchoutforthatcar 01-27-2014 12:23 PM

How do people ask you about your weight?
 
I just find it funny how people approach me about my weight loss since it's become so noticeable.

"So how much weight have you lost?"
"Omg, how much weight are you going to lose?"
"You're withering away to nothing!" (Which couldn't be furthest from the truth because I'm still plenty big.
"You look so different." They say this in like a complimentary way but I still don't know how to take it.

Just wondering what ways others have gotten noticed for their weight loss.

IdealProteinNewbie 01-27-2014 12:35 PM

LOL, all of the above!

In private, in front of large crowds, quiet, loud, etc.

Sometimes I wonder what people are thinking.

watchoutforthatcar 01-27-2014 12:41 PM

It's so annoying sometimes. My manager will literally pull other people over to her desk to gush about how much weight I've lost. Maybe I don't want everyone to know or ask questions. I just don't understand people.

IdealProteinNewbie 01-27-2014 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by watchoutforthatcar (Post 4929637)
It's so annoying sometimes. My manager will literally pull other people over to her desk to gush about how much weight I've lost. Maybe I don't want everyone to know or ask questions. I just don't understand people.

I understand completely what you're saying. On the other hand, I will never understand certain people and their actions.

You are amazing, by the way!

ColoradoCarol 01-27-2014 12:51 PM

"How much weight have you lost?"
"How much more are you going to lose". I have been very open with my co workers in my dept. so I answer. "About 40 more pounds we'll see". They then say, "really, you want to lose that much more?" I say "clothes hide a lot,"

These questions and comments don't bother me in the slightest. I have worked hard to achieve what I have achieved.

nolasmurf 01-27-2014 01:06 PM

I've had a lot of comments, and compliments. The only one that bothers me is when I tell ppl that I'm planning on lose at least 13 more lbs they tell me that I'll look sickly.
My response is usually soemthing along the lines of Id rather be skinny and sickly than fat and dead!

0ojoyo0 01-27-2014 01:07 PM

watchoutforthatcar: I actually haven't had anyone make a big production out of it like your manager did, and I would be mortified if that happened. I'm the only female in an office with 6 guys, so nobody at work says anything. Everyone else for the most part seems really happy for me, some are a bit jealous, and people always ask how much I've lost and how much I want to lose. What really irks me though is some members of my family, who have never had to struggle with their weight, feel the need to tell me what I should and shouldn't be eating. I had to move back in with my mom for a year in 2012 and that kinda forced me to go off my diet. Although I was maintaining, my weightloss had obviously stalled... Anyway, some family members felt the need to tell me that I need to go back on the diet so I could take the rest off. I don't understand why people feel the need to point things like this out, like I didn't know? And why would someone feel like they have the right to bring it up at all?

Bellybuttonlint403 01-27-2014 01:13 PM

So much changes when we lose weight. I lost friends because they were jealous and became mean

The comment you are withering away is so backhanded...I was told that and it made me mad.

The other comments were pretty supportive...The best one was a co-worker asking another girl who the new girl was and it was me lmao

For me going from being big and invisible to smaller and the topic of conversation...I freaked out and gained some back but I decided not to let anyone else dictate my happiness and I am back to that lower weight. Everyone has now adjusted and the comments have stopped.

IdealProteinNewbie 01-27-2014 01:21 PM

I'm proud of what I've accomplished as well, I just wish people had a little more tact when commenting on it.

We should all be proud of ourselves!

IdealProteinNewbie 01-27-2014 01:46 PM

I'm also on guard ever since, a few months ago, someone asked me how much I've lost. Proudly I answered, his eyes got wide and he said "wow, you must have been a real porker before."

lisa32989 01-27-2014 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Bellybuttonlint403 (Post 4929665)
So much changes when we lose weight. I lost friends because they were jealous and became mean

I have a heavy co-worker who has never once mentioned my weight loss. One day when another person was inquiring, she said, "I couldn't do a diet where I could only drink"

It is pretty clear she knows nothing about IP, nor does she want to know. I just said "This isn't only liquids" and left it at that.

I figure if she really wanted to know, she'd ask. I guess she'd rather be fat and jealous!

trinny 01-27-2014 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by IdealProteinNewbie (Post 4929691)
I'm also on guard ever since, a few months ago, someone asked me how much I've lost. Proudly I answered, his eyes got wide and he said "wow, you must have been a real porker before."

Wow, that person sounds like a total cad!

I think I have been guilty of over-gushing at another person's weight loss. Having tried and failed so many times, I am genuinely impressed when people are noticeably successful.

I suspect that I maybe over-did my compliments with the person who inspired me to look into Ideal Protein. I was just so amazed by the difference in her in just a few months that I think I may have expressed it too strongly and crossed a line. I am genuinely contrite (and embarrassed) about it but don't want to go back to her and apologize because I think I'd just end up doing it again.

GettinHealthyNow 01-27-2014 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by nolasmurf (Post 4929658)
I've had a lot of comments, and compliments. The only one that bothers me is when I tell ppl that I'm planning on lose at least 13 more lbs they tell me that I'll look sickly.
My response is usually soemthing along the lines of Id rather be skinny and sickly than fat and dead!

Love this! Will use it.

drd1961 01-27-2014 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by IdealProteinNewbie (Post 4929691)
I'm also on guard ever since, a few months ago, someone asked me how much I've lost. Proudly I answered, his eyes got wide and he said "wow, you must have been a real porker before."

Oh...my

dak1lls 01-27-2014 02:59 PM

Yes, some of the remarks or questions can seem a bit rude. I always try to respond in a gracious way regardless, but sometimes it can be more difficult than others for sure. It really depends on who it is and my relationship with that person. I have had a lot of comments like, "you aren't going to lose MORE weight are you"? This was 20 lbs ago! Mostly these were from people close enough to me that I could explain that they just weren't used to seeing me the way I was supposed to look. I have a very small frame and can overlap my fingers when I wrap my hand around my wrist. Most people have never seen me as the smaller person I am meant to be.

What bothers me more than questions about how much weight I have lost, or how I have done it, are the comments like, "aren't you worried you're just going to gain it all back?" or "you're probably going to gain it back, after losing it so quickly". I just generally respond, "well, I certainly hope not." Someone mentioned once that you would never say something like that to an alcoholic, so why would you say something like that to someone who has struggled with overeating?


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