| 65X65 |
01-18-2014 05:39 PM |
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Originally Posted by mizliz
(Post 4922766)
Lisa and 65x65...I look specifically for your comments as a new person to IP because you both share so much wisdom. As someone who has successfully lost weight before in other programs I understand how hurtful the unfiltered mouths of friends, acquaintances, strangers, and even family members can be. It helps me to remember:
1. Someone else's opinion of me is none of my business.
2. Just because someone asks a question doesn't mean I have to answer it.
3. What someone else says or does is not nearly as important as my reaction to it. Their praise or criticism does not determine what I put in my mouth. I am the only one who is responsible for that.
This is my second week of IP so I have a long way to go here. You women show me that some things still haven't changed in the successful weight loss world. Reading about your experiences remind me that the minefield is still out there but we can get through it.
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mizlix-
Thank-you and welcome to this chat! Not sure if I've seen you around this table before but you are someone who seems to have some thoughtful experience as well.
One of the things I felt early on ..was I did not want to be the "Poster Child" for IP in my circle of friends, acquaitances or neighborhood community. For me at least, this is so personal... and I've advised caution for newbies who are so thrilled when the weight starts to drop......to use care and discretion in who they bring with them on this journey! I have found sincerity, honesty and so much openess here. I can not thank those who shared it with me, a stranger, enough. The help of the strangers here is worth more than the approval or opinions of 95% of the people in my everyday life. Only my immediate family gets to hear all that has gone on in my journey.... . (My best friend of 34 years would ...if she were still alive, but I do feel she knows. We talk!) My husband would not have approved of this diet initially...so I left him out of it!!! After I lost 25 lbs...I shared it because he could see it was working. Then I told him it was more than just another diet attempt. I told him he was a landmine in the battle I've been waging in the past...and that's why he was left out of the loop. It got his attention. He did some serious thinking, and he is my biggest fan...and believes in IP and the way it works now.
SOOO...chose carefully who goes on this trip! Once they are in the car...it is moving too fast to throw them out safely!!! Not saying you can't slow down and let someone in...just be sure they will not present challenges or demand anything in the next part of your journey!
Best wishes! And you have all of us...and I might add...we are riding together on a train. A big one!! |
