I appreciate all the ideas! Hubby didn't want a cake this year but I just felt like we *needed* the candle, singing and blowing out tradition.
I was trying to stay away from anything sweet and I was thinking about doing the cucumber and veggie idea... but then he said he really didn't want the candle and he was really happy just sleeping in really late and then catching up on some reruns and then out to a late Thai dinner (veggies in garlic sauce--delicious!).
We both did great and we survived a bday without candles!