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Originally Posted by WannaB2cute
@newday.... Yea I usually can take the insults laugh them off and cry privately later but this one was just mean.
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Yes, she was mean. Hopefully, it is something she will not continue as she matures in life. Some people are just mean and I think sometimes they just kind of don't know better (such as what's appropriate to say out loud vs. a thought that should never be spoken) or don't have a good filter.
I've been overweight since Jr. High. I didn't become obese until early/mid-twenties. One of my uncles had made comments out loud to me alone or around other people about my weight while I was growing up. Nothing super cruel as I can't recall any specific statements, but comments that make me dislike this part of him. Now, many years later he has gained weight (due to medical conditions, age and overeating - doesn't have that super metabolism he had when he was young and didn't realize how lucky he was lol!) He has never offered a real apology. I don't think he'd know how to do a proper one even if he felt bad enough to do so. Which I don't think would've ever occurred to him because I never let him know that the comments long ago hurt me. I believe in his own way he's apologizing by making statements about how he
now realizes how hard it is to lose weight.
I think many skinny/thin people who've never had to struggle with weight/gaining weight have no clue what it's really like for us who have. I assume (and we all know I shouldn't do that, right?) that those thin people think most of us are "fat" because we eat too much and are lazy! When in reality, we know it's 1000% (I meant one thousand, not one hundred) more complicated than that!
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Originally Posted by Ishbel
it occurred to me that I could try on ANY wedding dress in the store(s). I'd have more then one option to try on.
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So, happy for you. I'm not a crier, but almost reached for the box of kleenex!
Please, share with us a picture of THE dress when you get it; would love to see how radiant you look anc celebrate with you!
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Originally Posted by Kat117
I very calmly replied - Madame (she was about 15 years older than my 38) "it is obvious you value different things than I. Since you were so rude as to stare at my clothes, shoes and handbag before making such a rude comment, I feel I need to inform you that my shoes alone cost more than everything you have on, including your jewelery. I refuse to submit myself to such vileness and we will not be doing business together."
I just politely replied that I prefer not to have posionious people in my life in any capacity.
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WOW! Okay, I'm going to date myself and some of you young people will not know what I'm talking about lol! I would describe you as Carla from the TV sitcom "Cheers". She is the actress Rita Perlman (married [still] to Danny Devito). I loved her character because she was always so quick witted with responses back to people (and usually sarcastic to boot). Whereas, I'm the one who walks away after having someone say something rude/insulting to me - shocked and hurt. And it's days later that I think, "I should have said...... such and such" as my response. How, I'd like to go back in time and replay so I would be ready and could say MY line, lol!
Good for you for standing up for yourself. With rude people like that, I feel that's probably the only way they will understand that what they just said was NOT appropriate.
And I'm so glad that you got the opportunity to discount her again in your lifetime, by refusing her to work with your, now that your appearance has become more "acceptable" to her.
These are the type of people that I really hope encounter the other side of Karma and the sooner the better!
Jen
BTW, at age 40 - I'm getting better at standing up for myself and although I may not have the most witty response, I don't let the person get away without me telling them how inappropriate they've just been.