Good Morning IPeeps,
i have only been able to read a few pages this morning of the week-end chats. Will get all caught up here shortly hopefully.
Lisa, gald to hear that you mother is doing well. Please keep us updated on her.
Well, Friday my dear friend was having a hard time with this plan. On Mother's day she took her mother out to eat to Shoney's and she totally fell off the wagon. She jumped right back on the next day and stayed on it well the rest of the week. She is is concerned that she is weak and she is afraid that she will keep sabotaging herself. She stated that she wishes she was strong as me. I told her that I know that she can do this, that I beleive in her totally, and that she just needs to start believing in herself as well. Then I told her a little secret that I have done, and I thought that I would share it with all of you, those who are struggling, who are hitting a plateau and the newbies.... Sometimes we hit a plateau after working a very long time to lose weight and we can forget exactly how far we've come. Having a letter from the past can just be what we need to show us how far we've come and keep us motivated to keep keeping on. Here are a few suggestions for writing your own letter to yourself.
1. Don't talk down to yourself. Starting a letter with "Dear Fatty Fatterson, Dear Fatso, Dear Staypuff Marshmellow" is definitely a no-no! Even if is how you are feeling. Start with "Dear Me".
2. Describe what it is like to be you right now. Are you satisfied with your weight? Are you unhappy? Are you unhealthy? Are you energetic or just too tire to do anything? Be honsest and tell yourself how you feel. Be as descriptive as possible. Using descriptive words and emotions will really help you stay motivated on your wight loss journey. Reach deep withing yourself an explain what you are going throught and why you need to make a change. Explain how you feel and be blunt. Following is my own example:
I weigh 224.4 pounds now and I just don't reconize myself in the mirror any more. I look and feel horrible. How could I have done this to myself? How could I let myself get this big? I can't even shop for clothes anymore because whenever I pick out a garment and take it to the dressing room, I find that I haven't pick a large enough size. I have sat in the dressing rooms so many times and cried while looking at the size numbers keep getting higher and higher and I just can't take it anymore.
I'm tired of missing out on fun things because of my weight. I can't go out in public in a bathing suit and that eiminates any change of me ever going to a water park or a beach. I'm missing out on great opportunities because of my shame.
When I do go into public, I either feel like I'm completely invisible (like when salespeople ignore me) or that everyone is judging me. I can't even go into a gym because I feel like is everyone is judging me for being obese.
I'm tired all the tine and don't have the energy to enjoy like anymore. I am so sick and tired of being sick and tired. want to enjoy my life and live it to the fullest again. I am so worth it and I deserve it!!!!!!
I know that when you have a goal, you can lose your way, hit a plateau, think that you can't do this, I'm not strong enough etc...... and it gets extremely frustrating, ready to give up. Having this letter on hand helps us remember how far we have come, and why we need to really press on. I hope that this will help someone. Having it, and all of you has really helped me keep going.
I love, respect and apprechiate each and everyone of you! Thank you for all of the support that we give each other. We are truly AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!