I read your letter and the answer. Fortunately it looks like you didn't take as much from it as you could have taken. It is true that your future husband is important and that your life was changing, but she put it so cut and dry and it is not that simple. We all have feelings and need to take care of ourselves too. It took me some time to realize this myself. As someone stated on here earlier, happy wife equals happy life, that's for the both of you. My house is definitely a more pleasant place to live for all when I'm happy and just because you want to be happy does not mean that your SO is not important to you. Well I'm no expert on anything, but if I had been you and gotten the answer she gave and I was 21 years old, I might not have been as strong as you. Be proud of yourself for being so strong and obtaining your goal. I would have most likely ate more after reading that response to your letter.
Last edited by Daisyray; 09-14-2009 at 08:43 AM.