Originally Posted by kmc51533
I have been struggling with weight my whole life. I am 24 years old 5'5 and have reached my all time high of 250 lbs. I never thought I would let myself get this out of control but I did. My blood pressure is high now, I have PCOS and my cholesterol is high. At the rate I am going I am likely t have a heart attack or stroke. I really need help!!! Are there any suggestions people have for diets?? I am a nurse so eating small meals frequently doesnt always work out because of the constant go go go. I was wondering if pills would help?? there are so many out there claiming to be the best so it can be overwhelming. I have tried alot of diets from weight watchers to nutrisystem to protein shakes and the weight never stays off... I also can get discouraged easily if weight doesnt come off every week.. Someone please help me!
Hey I'm from MA, too
This might sound harsh, but I think you need to hear it before starting any sort of plan.
The weight doesn't stay off, because you quit working at it. Period.
Any of those plans you mentioned DO work, but it's the people who've committed to it...the people who change their lives... the people who accept that it won't be a "quick fix"... those are the people who succeed at it.
In order to lose weight for the long haul you are first going to have to accept that there are going to be weeks that you don't lose weight, and there might even be a few weeks in there that you gain. You have to accept that, because that is the way TRUE and LASTING weight loss works.
People quit when they get frustrated. People get frustrated when they set their standards too high and then fail to see unrealistic results. You are going to have to accept that your standards were too high, and it's now time to be realistic and see how real, permanent weight loss works.
No one cares if a person takes off 5 pounds a week just to put it back on a month later when they quit. That's not inspiring. That's not real. It's just a fix and in the end hurts the body, and doesn't address the underlying condition. It's a band-aid for a gunshot wound to the head.
You want to know what the best diet plan is for you?
The best plan is the one that you're going to commit to forever. The best plan is the one you aren't afraid to tweak to fit your life constantly. The best plan is the one that even if you stumble you KNOW you can even get to goal if you just get back up and continue forward on.
Here's a list of what you're probably going to have to do if you REALLY want a change in your life.
1) Learn -and- accept what realistic
weight loss is, and what realistic
goals are. Check around 3FC. Read the maintainers area. Read the sections dedicated to people who've been working at this for YEARS. Then you might have a better idea of what realistic
2) Be observant about your eating and exercising patterns. What about them is healthy and what do you want to continue? What about them is unhealthy and what do you want to change?
3) Make a list of changes that you KNOW you can make. Doesn't have to be a big list to start.
4) Choose something on that list. Set a goal to do that one thing for a week.
5) Accomplish the goal.
6) Continue with the new healthy habit, return to #2 and repeat forever.
Focus on healthy changes. Focus on things you can DO positively. Avoid focusing on things like a scale. A scale can be a helpful tool, but it is not the only tool.
You can do this. You absolutely can make lasting changes. So many people have. But, you're going to have to start with a different type of change... and that's a change in your approach.
Best of wishes, and I hope to see you around the boards more.