3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community  

Go Back   3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community > Support Forum > General chatter

General chatter Because life isn't just about dieting. Play games, jokes, or share what's new in your life!

Does this happen to anyone else?

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools
Old 11-05-2006, 05:38 PM   #1
lilybelle
 
lilybelle's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: rural Oklahoma
Posts: 6,619

S/C/G: 234/142/145

Height: 5'7

Default Does this happen to anyone else?

I had 2 friends stop by the other night and wanted to know all about how I had lost the weight. I spent 2 hrs. explaining my particular plan to them. They acted very serious about shedding the lbs. Then, I came to the computer room and my DH, son and DD visited with them. I went back in the living room and the friends were sitting, drinking beer and scarfing my DD's bag of Halloween Candy. They both admitted that they had no intention of giving up the daily drinking. I mentioned that since they admitted to drinking a 12 pack each of beer per day, that they wouldn't be able to lose weight, the way I had or any other way that I know of. I've never heard of a Beer and Candy diet. When I mentioned that they could cheaply purchase the "diet book" that I used at Walmart, I was told "oh, I hate to read". When I mentioned they could come over and walk with me each day, I was told "oh, no, I'm way too lazy to walk, but I'll follow you in my car if you want to walk a long ways". What the heck. I wanted to just say "thanks for stopping by, come back again if you are ever serious about wanting my help". I concluded that they simply aren't ready to make any type of lifestyle change at this time. It felt sorta like someone lighting up a cigarette at a "quit smoking" meeting.
__________________



http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/goal-photo-album/88618-before-current-goal-pics.html

^^ My new before and current photos! ^^
lilybelle is offline  
Old 11-05-2006, 05:41 PM   #2
Tired of lettuce!
 
hoodj0080's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Alvin, Texas
Posts: 305

Height: 6 flippin' feet tall!

Default

Ugh, how irritating. You were a lot nicer than I would have been!!!! Some friend of mine just emailed me wantingto know the ISBN number of my WW point books so she could buy them online! I told her that you should go to atleast one meeting to learn about it. It's free; why wouldn't you? People are irritating...
__________________
hoodj0080 is offline  
Old 11-05-2006, 05:58 PM   #3
Just Me
 
nelie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: Maryland
Posts: 15,318

S/C/G: 364/202/182

Height: 5'6"

Default

Yes it happens. People want to lose weight until they find out that it doesn't take a pill to do so. If they are required to do any effort, they back away. They simply enjoy not exercising and eating as they do more than their desire to be healthy.
__________________
You can't out-exercise poor eating habits.
nelie is offline  
Old 11-05-2006, 06:04 PM   #4
Senior Member
 
Join Date: May 2003
Location: Ontario's West Coast
Posts: 13,968

S/C/G: 165/147/128

Height: 5'3"

Default

This fits right in with the "I beg your pardon???" thread from last week
__________________
... Susan
Eat good food. Move yourself. Lift something.

You'll be surprised how much you don't miss grain.
srmb60 is offline  
Old 11-05-2006, 06:30 PM   #5
future triathlete
 
sierra_ttw's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Victoria
Posts: 498

S/C/G: 187.5/148.5/129

Height: 5'2"

Default

Yup - happened to me not too long ago with someone I work with. She was saying how she'd really like to get healthier and lose some weight. I live near her, so I told her that i'd be happy to go for walks with her (I'll walk for hours, even if I'm not going anywhere in particular). Her reply? "Ugh, I hate walking". Oh, well, how about we go rollerblading sometime? She can't stand rollerblading on sidewalks. When I pointed out that there's a trail in town, she said it was too far away (it's across the road from our work!). Cycling? She left her bike at her parents place in another town. And, no, she couldn't possibly borrow my spare one 'cause she's used to hers and she doesn't like using road bikes, anyway.
I gave up then. I ran into her in the cafeteria area on the ferry a few days later, and I'd brought my own snacks - a healthy sandwhich, some veggie sticks, and some dried fruit, 'cause the ferry has nasty fried food. She sat down with us, with her burger, fries, and pop, and proceded to make fun of our healthy food, and kept asking if we wanted some fries.
Guess she's just not there yet.
__________________


sierra_ttw is offline  
Old 11-05-2006, 08:14 PM   #6
I'M A YOGA WIDOWER!
 
EZMONEY's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Southern California
Posts: 21,844

S/C/G: 201/186/180

Height: 6'

Default

Lilybelle ~ they just wanted an easy way out! Since you didn't give them that, they went another direction, kind of joking about it, DENIAL. Don't waste another minute worrying about what they think or what they want to do with their issues. But does this mean if WE train together I have to give up my MGD's?
__________________
As long as I live I will TESTIFY HIS LOVE!
EZMONEY is offline  
Old 11-05-2006, 08:46 PM   #7
mom2cole
 
mom2cole's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2004
Location: Medford, OR
Posts: 245

Default

Hey that sounds like my mother and MIL! When I started WW back in April my mom decided to join to. I thought I had a buddy, she was also going to start walking me since I can't push both of my boys in strollers by myself. Well she went to one meeting and told me she could do this on her own she didn't need anyone telling her how to lose weight. Well it is now November and I have lost 22lbs between april and aug and she has lost nothing! We never did walk. I bought a treadmill to walk on. Well I haven't been really dieting since aug and I am starting WW next week again and I aske her again, she is ho humming about it but every time she sees me she says she wishing she were smaller. Oh well, some people never change.
__________________
mom2cole is offline  
Old 11-05-2006, 08:49 PM   #8
Member
 
DebbieII's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Texas
Posts: 36

S/C/G: 209/190/149

Height: 5'5"

Default

I have relatives in southeastern Oklahoma...I think you might know them
__________________
DebbieII is offline  
Old 11-05-2006, 09:37 PM   #9
lilybelle
 
lilybelle's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: rural Oklahoma
Posts: 6,619

S/C/G: 234/142/145

Height: 5'7

Default

My Aunt and MIL both said they were going to start trying to lose weight and exercise when I first started changing my life. Well, they waited a yr. but they are both working on it now and have lost 23lbs. and 27lbs. I'm happy for them. When I see someone that doesn't have a care in the world if they lose weight and get healthy, I always figure it's their own personal choice. I just hate to be badgered for help and advice, and then looked at like I'm stupid for offering suggestions and encouragement that could be helpful. I guess what they wanted to hear is that I went to sleep fat one night and woke up thin the next morning.
__________________



http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=88618

^^ My new before and current photos! ^^
lilybelle is offline  
Old 11-05-2006, 10:51 PM   #10
Senior Member
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: San Diego
Posts: 6,182

S/C/G: 200/Ethan born 1-11-13/130

Default

I try not to be too hard on folks, I wasn't ready for 20 years either. Let's face it, it's a lifetime of bringing healthy food for ferry rides - not many people are ready for that.

It's like the "bacon and egg" breakfast someone posted earlier this week. The chicken is interested, the pig is committed. You gotta be the pig.

Btw, Sierra, the correct response to "have some fries" is "have some of my size 6 jeans!"
__________________
SIX YEARS at maintenance weight!

My very long weight loss story

"I saw an angel in the marble and I chiseled until I set it free."
Michelangelo
Glory87 is offline  
Old 11-06-2006, 12:06 AM   #11
Senior Member
 
alinnell's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Southern California
Posts: 9,876

S/C/G: 173/in progress/140ish

Height: 5'8"

Default

Lily, Someone posted this elsewhere on the forum, but it really speaks for itself:

Quote:
This is an excerpt from Linda Spangle's book 100 Days to Weight Loss. I think this might have been mentioned here before, but it bears repeating.

People who are interested in losing weight:
1. Stick with it until something better comes along
2. Take action only if they “feel like” doing it
3. Need to see results in order to stay motivated
4. Blame people or circumstances for their struggles
5. Easily give up when the face challenges.

People who are committed to losing weight:
1. Stick with their plans no matter what
2. Take action whether they feel like doing it or not
3. Assume that if they stay motivated results will follow
4. Take responsibility for their own actions
5. Keep going in spite of challenges and setbacks
Gary--well, maybe you should switch from your MGD to a Michelob Ultra!!! That's what I drink now if I need a beer (but I'm still a cabernet drinker!).
__________________

(`'•.¸(`'•.¸ ¸.•'´) ¸.•'´)
``•Allison•``
(¸.•'´(¸.•'´ `'•.¸)`' •.¸)



“A Year from Now You May Wish You Had Started Today”~Karen Lamb
alinnell is offline  
Old 11-06-2006, 01:35 AM   #12
lilybelle
 
lilybelle's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: rural Oklahoma
Posts: 6,619

S/C/G: 234/142/145

Height: 5'7

Default

allinel, Thanks for the post. I can certainly see that they aren't committed.

Gary, I didn't even know what MGD is. lol
__________________



http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=88618

^^ My new before and current photos! ^^
lilybelle is offline  
Old 11-06-2006, 01:56 AM   #13
trouble
 
isthatreallyme's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Canada
Posts: 121

S/C/G: 240/219/160

Height: 5'4

Default

I have a work colleague who I chat with a lot and talking about my diet, and she always has a reason why she can't lose weight.... lol "my job forces me to sit on my butt all day" or "I don't have enough time" or "we don't have healthy food options at work" or "i can't afford to go on a diet" (that last one is silly, but try to argue, and get a lecture lol).

heh, I think this is a north america-wide phenomenon (possibly more widespread, but not sure). We are on this thing where it's normal and expected to want to lost weight, as we are generally getting bigger and bigger. That's why food companies are getting pushed to make things healthier, and why so many companies are getting sued (in the USA at least, no offence, but americans are kinda sue-happy). A little off topic there, but what I am getting at is that lots of people say they want to lose weight, but it's a lot easier to make excuses or blame being overweight on someone/something else than it is to do something about it.
__________________
Mini-Goal:



Goal:


Last edited by isthatreallyme : 11-06-2006 at 02:02 AM.
isthatreallyme is offline  
Old 11-06-2006, 08:54 AM   #14
I'M A YOGA WIDOWER!
 
EZMONEY's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Southern California
Posts: 21,844

S/C/G: 201/186/180

Height: 6'

Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by lilybelle View Post
allinel, Thanks for the post. I can certainly see that they aren't committed.

Gary, I didn't even know what MGD is. lol
Lilybelle~ It is Miller Genuine Draft, I forgot where you lived for a moment ya'll bein used ta drinkin BUDS while watchin' NASCAR and all....kidding!!!!
__________________
As long as I live I will TESTIFY HIS LOVE!
EZMONEY is offline  
Old 11-06-2006, 09:18 AM   #15
No description available.
 
midwife's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2004
Location: Bat Country
Posts: 7,348

Default

I see this professionally ALL the time. Women say, "I want to try to breastfeed" and then as we talk about it, come up with 25 reasons why it won't work.

My private rule is that more than one reason = EXCUSES. If people really want to do something they will find a way.

Some of what you said percolated in. They will find you again when they are ready. And in the meantime, their excuses will sustain their lifestyle.
__________________
"And that's how Beowulf rolls"~ my DD
midwife is offline  
Closed Thread
Posts by members, moderators and admins are not considered medical advice
and no guarantee is made against accuracy.


Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 11:40 AM.






Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.6.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2015, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.3.2