Just kind of read through the thread again, and I think everything is getting a bit out proportion.
I'm just going to speak here from my own experience: relationships last a long time, and during that time there is going to be an ebb and flow. Sometimes things "click" and all you want to do is spend time with each other, at other times interests kind of wander a bit and each will (or one or the other will) be pulling just a little bit in a different direction. A strong relationship is one where people can move through all of these different times without causing a major disruption to the fundumental health of the partnership.
I don't think that LLV was EVER saying that she did not want to spend time with her guy- just that she wanted there to be room for her to not be with him, and for that to be okay. Yes, he says that "it's okay", but actions speak so much louder than words.
And, as far as "prowling" is concerned: don't paint me (for one) with that brush. Just because one person only goes to out in order to go home with someone doesn't mean that that is the only reason I go out. I go out to laugh, to share, to make new memories, to refresh myself. (Not that I do it much, but it does happen
). I would be very resentful if anyone ever insinuated that the only reason I was going to spend the evening with a friend was because I wanted to cheat! I could only imagine that the person had the lowest level of respect for my character.
And, finally, there is such a thing as blowing off steam. Hey, we all get frustrated at times and there are times a situation just seems hopeless until some time has passed, or we've had a chance to voice that frustration. That does not mean that a relationship is in danger.