I got conned into helping with a kids group at church--kind of like scouts. The meeting was to start around 1:30 and end around 4 or 4:30, so I left around 1 and DH had just laid down to take a nap--hasn't been feeling well. I got to church and none of the three kids in my class were there. My son lives less than 10 minutes from the church so I stopped by his apartment. We ended up watching a movie together and then I was home before 4 to make me & hubby something to eat. When I got home, hubby asked how it went since he knows I really don't want to do it but got the "nobody else will do it for these kids" so I am. I told him that the class was cancelled so I stopped by son's. He started yelling about how rude I am for not calling- I did not call because as I said he was laying down for a nap when I left and if I called while he was sleeping I would have been yelled at for that. He said that I should have just come home instead of going to son's. He also said if I made anything to eat he wouldn't eat it and is being what I think is very irrational....
Am I wrong to be mad at this point?
No, you aren't wrong. You were just trying to be polite to not wake him. I can't see why it would be a big deal to visit with your son either. Your Dh is the one who is wrong. He needs to be more supportive of your relationship w/your son and that you are able to make your own choices without having to worry about whether it will upset him or not. ((HUGS))
Maybe he's grouchy because he doesn't feel well and maybe he's jealous that you spent time with your son and he didn't? I'm sure he'll get over it soon - try to take it with a grain of salt and heck - if he's not gonna eat it - don't cook him anything!
"The tragedy in life doesn't lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach."
– Benjamin Mays
I didn't cook the supper I had planned. I made myself a big salad and left him to fend for himself. He finally apologized for the way he acted. I lost 5 lbs last Tuesday when I weighed and I think I have lost more this week. Pants I just bought that were a little tight are now a little loose--not falling off loose but I can see a difference. He tends to get insecure and I think that's what I am dealing with. This time I am not going to let his insecurities make me lose my motivation. I will continue to go to the gym at least 3 times a week and continue changing my eating habits. Things are better today--I guess I just needed to vent because he makes me so mad sometimes especially when it is irrational and I didn't do anything wrong.