Sorry to unload on you guys but I just have to vent.
My husband & I are in our late 30's. We went to high school together & have old friends that we share in common.
On the 4th of July he & I invited a few of these "old friends" and their small children over to celebrate w/us. As DH & I have no children of our own, we saved "Happy Meal" toys for a week to hand out to the children, worked really hard all weekend cleaning, mowing, etc. to prepare for our guests & supplied all food & beverages.
The kids had a blast playing together & we enjoyed the company of our "dear friends".
Well, as our guests were preparing to leave, the two men (with whom DH & I graduated) commented on how much fun their children had playing together & began making plans to meet on Wednesday at one of the men's home to have dinner & let the kids play. These plans were made right in front of me yet noone invited DH & I.
After our "friends" left, I discovered 2 "Happy Meal" dolls left behind so I put them in my car. Tonight as I rode by "John's" house on the way home from work, I saw "Jim's" car parked out front & the kids were playing in the yard. I stopped & took the dolls to "John" & told him that when he & his lovely wife enjoyed our hospitality on the 4th, their girls forgot the dolls. I then asked him what he & "Jim" were doing tonight. He said "having dinner, would you & Jack like to join us?" I said "No, thanks. We weren't invited. Enjoy your chicken" and I left. Now DH is angry at me & says I handled it all wrong & that I've put a strain on our friendships. I feel that if these users had been friends, they would not have stood in my kitchen making plans with one another & have excluded DH & I.
They have often disrespected "Jack" and hurt his feelings but he still considers them his friends. I love my husband & do not want him angry w/me nor do I wish to put a strain on his "friendship" with these men, but, God help me, I don't regret what I did. This was the last straw for me. After 20+ years I no longer wish to be hurt by John & Jim & call it a "friendship".
As I said, I'm sorry to unload on you but I can't talk to my husband about this without it turning into an arguement.
Thanks for listening to my rant.