[shcirerf]

I have been married to the same man for 37 years!

Some times, I just want to smack him upside the head, and ask him, what planet did you come from?

Don't get me wrong, he's not a bad guy, and is supportive in his own way. But dear Lord! Give me a break!

Between my father and my DH, I've learned tons. The DH, told me he wanted to be sure I could be get along without him. He's been dying for the last 38 years. Of various illnesses, or diseases. *roll eyes*

Now, that I'm independent, he's freaking out, and wants to be all helpful and involved!

Thing is, I do love him, and I can't imagine anything else, but he DRIVES ME NUTS!

[IanG]

Divorce him.

Let's put that on the table and see what others say.

[Penny105]

I think everyone who means the most to me has driven me absolutely bat**** crazy at one point or another in my life. I can tell I love them so much because they're still here, and I still want to be around them.

Maybe your husband wants you to be able to be fine without him, but maybe the reality of you being independent never really occurred to him. People get strange when their loved ones make changes like that. My friend and her husband are getting ready to move, and his family freaked the heck out about it after previously being supportive.

Personally, I do not do well with people being extremely needy of me. Requiring support and time and partnership? Absolutely. Needing me in a way that feels like they're clinging to me? No. It's exhausting. Maybe that's not what your husband is doing, though?

Would it help to talk to him about it? Tell him where you're at, figure out how he's feeling?