Artic Mama - Thank you, I think it was meant as a compliment, so I managed to ignore my own insecurities and not receive it as a negative comment about my weight. Everyone was so kind and happy so I don't think any offense was meant.
Mrs. Snark - I was vegetarian and vegan for a couple of years before my kids were born. I am amazed at how many people feel its their place to comment on what others are eating. I never minded curiosity but unsolicited opinions are just rude! lol Its exhausting to talk about our eating everytime you eat with people that are not informed on your diet or choice. I can see the allure of the dark closet! lol
Pixelllate - you know, that's part of the issue. I'm super passionate, serious, motivated and interested in nutrition and issues surrounding dieting. Partly its my own issues with an ED too. So when I talk about dieting, I don't want to talk casually. Truthfully I don't want to small talk about dieting to someone that is obviously not that serious about the whole thing. I would go as far as to say health and nutrition are a passion of mine, and I just don't feel like watching it become some ho-hum chit chat among people who have no interest in really reading about it, learning about it or putting it into practice. So unless I notice that someone seems really into it, I wont participate in diet talk.
Pattience - I don't lose weight for anyone but me. Whether I'm over weight, obese or a healthy bmi, I don't want my diet or food to be open for discussion. I don't like that its socially acceptable to comment on people;s food choices. As someone who is recovering from starving and binging, eating is just a private thing for me. Its not about how much weight I have to lose, because this journey is not just about my body size, its about trying to have a somewhat normal relationship with food. Its like a recovering alcoholic going out with friends and receiving comments about why he is not drinking...its a personal struggle and maybe he doesn't want to share that with everyone. Its more than the drink but how drinking has changed and maybe ruined times in his life. I don't know if I can explain it but it just so much more than not being fat so I should be ok with talking about my diet.
And as a side note, I believe I clearly stated I was not upset by it, that I was just sharing it here.
Ginerjv, not all
I eat less in social settings. Partly because I lose my appetite when nervous so if its around new people, or a big party I dont eat at all which stinks because I am starving once I get home!! If I'm not super nervous, I still do not like the thought of others seeing me over feed my fat face! I say over feed because I do eat, but I'm overly aware of how much and I'm careful to keep it a small amount, smaller than I could eat if alone. The only person I eat "normal" around is my husband, and by normal I mean as much as I please even if its a gross amount!!
Krampus - when I was vegan, though rare, some people though unprovoked, would go on and on about how they don't feel bad about eating meat. I was not a vegan for moral reasons, mind you, and if *they* brought the topic up I'd tell them that. But wow they were **** bent on convincing me (or themselves) that they just loooooooved meat! lol