helpmelose: I wanted to add, that in my experience no matter which site it was.....I usually got out of it what I put in. If I sat around waiting for a guy to message me, I wouldn't get very far. But if I sent out messages and frequently updated my profile/pictures, I had much better results.
The exception to this was Christian Mingle. I sent out over 60 emails in the month I was on there and didn't get a single date.
ETA: I think this post inspired me to try out eharmony!
Have to decide which membership option I want.
ETA (again): I got a little email with tips on the right kind of picture to put up...and most of mine aren't great choices!
I'm usually outside when taking pictures, which means I have my big sunglasses on. Either that, or my pictures are a) old b) mirror selfies.
Guess I need to get a friend to take pictures...