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Originally Posted by Rechyl
Now my man wants to take a few days with no contact. What is the point anymore
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Hey girl....so sorry to hear about your loss and troubles. Loss sucks....I had a husband of 23 years up and walk out on me 2 years ago (I know it's not the same kind of loss as a death). It hurt like he11. Then I thought things were going to work out because he wanted to get back together....then he turned around and said "no, I really don't want to get back together". Then he divorced me. He had my head all kinds of messed up. Then he was dating...then he wasn't. Then he wanted to sell the house (which I was living in by myself)...I packed the entire house all by myself...threw out a ton of my mom's stuff that I got when she passed away. I had to because I had to downsize. Meanwhile, I had to look for a place to live. I didn't want an apartment. So I found an awesome condo (fell in love the moment I stepped inside of it). Had to do the entire move by myself. It was all so traumatic and sudden. I really thought the house would take forever to sell. It only sold in 2 weeks. Talk about a whirlwind of events. Meanwhile, I ate myself through the stress of this past year of my life. Re-gained the 100 pounds that I lost. I was a mess. I just recently got back onto the bandwagon. I'm a fat mess. Was forced to join a gym (my gym was in my basement - free weights, nautilus equipment, etc). Went to the gym for the first time yesterday. It was scary. Oh, and about 3 weeks ago, I had some mystery illness which the doc chalked up to inflammatory colitis. Boy that was loads of fun. Nauseated, vomiting, weight loss, and diarrehea. I'm feeling better, but some foods still make me a bit sick to my stomach.
Bottom line....it's time to get SELFISH. You need to put YOU first. That's what I'm doing. I blocked my ex husband from my phone. I let my daughters phone calls go to voicemail. I take care of ME now. I'm so done with being fat and out of shape. This b1tch is coming back....and I'm gonna STAY that way, no matter what. I will NEVER allow anyone to beat me down ever again. Get mad girl....and get focused. You'll be okay....I promise. And tell your man to go eff himself. You don't need him. Trust me!! I'm single and learning to enjoy it at age 51. Never been on my own ever. I was either living with parents or I was married. It will be okay....what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. There's alot of truth to that statement. Keep your head up and smile.
And block phone numbers if need be