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Originally Posted by doingmybest
I don't know what other women have experienced, but when I was single, most men that I knew, no matter how fat, short, ugly, dumb, crude, bald or boring they were - they all wanted hot, gorgeous, thin women. I heard a couple of guys talking once and they were saying that they would never tolerate a fat wife or girlfriend. I watched men put up with terrible treatment from really good looking women and completely ignore fantastic women who didn't live up to their "standards".
I looked for someone who would love me for me and luckily I found my DH. He now has a big gut that he didn't have when we were dating and I love him no matter what he looks like. He has always treated me wonderfully. Find someone who deserves you no matter what the scale says.
This is SO true.
I used to work with this guy, he was short, fat, balding and had the personality of a kumquat. He would find women online that were "hot" and set up dates with them. Of course his profile pics were always with a hat, or at just such an angle, or close to his face...all very flattering and NOT representative of him at all. Then he'd get to the date and the next day he'd tell us all how hot she was and blah blah blah. A day or two later he'd be wondering why she wouldn't return his calls and she deleted him off FB etc. Really dude, really? You can't figure that one out? They expect one thing and another shows up. Behind his back the other guys at work would say things like "Dude needs to start looking at women "in his league" because those hot chicks are not going to go for a guy like him." Is that horrible? Yes, totally. Is it true? Apparently because they always dumped him right off.
(One guy at work once made the comment that if his wife got fat, he was so gone.
How horrible is that?)
I guess my point is that it for sure works both ways. Women can be as shallow as men.
But to the OP you are 100% right that any man who would diss you at a high weight is SO not worth your time at your low weight.