I've also learned with specific people (like my aunt) that they are just pushing their own issues on me. I can step back from her and see what she's grappling with. That's why I say "I love it". She's upset that I'm succeeding at something, and while it doesn't make me a good person to have that level of schadenfreude, it reinforces for me that I am doing well.
I've also learned with specific people (like my aunt) that they are just pushing their own issues on me. I can step back from her and see what she's grappling with. That's why I say "I love it". She's upset that I'm succeeding at something, and while it doesn't make me a good person to have that level of schadenfreude, it reinforces for me that I am doing well.
A great perspective! I will keep it in mind always.
I live for rewards! I get 10.00 for every week that is not a gain. Even if I stay the same I get reward. Because maintaining is just as tough as loosing. Then when I get a few weeks of rewards built up, I get myself something. A new top, comfy pants or flowers for garden. I'm soooo ready for a new pair of jeans but don't want to buy any until its a size smaller. Even though all my pants are loose it seems that I'm still not down a size
Cool! I was searching for "diet rewards" and found this one started by my Optifast pal, nibog.
I go to a medical weight loss center and the doctor and other staff are very much in favor of rewards as long as they aren't food rewards of course.
I plan to reward myself with some smaller things for the smaller weight loss goals (see siggy) but I want something super special to mark my big goal so I better plan for it now. I've never been one to spend much on myself but it's high time I paid a little more attention to me.
My current thinking is to reward myself with something to keep me healthy such as a new bike or maybe some instruction from a personal trainer at our local fitness center.
... Still thinking on it.
The idea of saving up the money to reward yourself later is awesome! I never thought of that, but it's a great idea
But so is buying new things for exercise or dieting (like blenders or other accessories), because it's a new thing but it also makes you feel like you wanna keep going
When I hit smaller mini goals, for weight, every 10 pounds I get a new book. For the bigger ones, I get bigger rewards... I got a new pair of shoes for getting under 300.
For fitness goals... I get fitness stuff. When I was able to complete a loop around the community (about 3/4 mile) with ease, I got a FitBit.
Once we move and settle I'll be adding bicycle, running shoes, elliptical, and kettlebells to my rewards list
If I've been good during the week I'll treat myself to a cheat meal at the weekend. And for every 10lbs lost I'm going to buy myself something nice like clothes or a book or something.
I enjoy eating breakfast after my run. And I really enjoy my lunch after my weight training. It tastes so good. And it's healthy too.
When I was big, I never used to enjoy eating as much as I do now.
So I have gone from breaking my relationship with food to starting a new one. But really it's been about breaking my relationship with my old food and starting a new relationship with new food.
I haven't done much in the way of rewards yet. I bought some new clothes in the spring when my old ones were too big, but I'm not much of a shopper or into clothes so that was more of a necessity. The best part of the shopping trip was looking in the mirror and not seeing a flubby spare tire around my middle staring back at me.
I don't have a specific weight goal in mind and if I never lost another pound I would be very happy where I am now. I'm in the healthy BMI range and refuse to mentally torture myself over a few vanity pounds.
I do plan to reward myself for staying committed to this thing for a year though. Never been skydiving and have always wanted to try it so... What better way to celebrate a year of commitment to better health than to jump out of a perfectly good airplane?
WOW! I could never jump out of a plane and I envy your guts! I am too much of a chicken and a jinx....I would be that % that you hear horror stories about....
I can totally understand not having the desire to do it, nibog! I just couldn't come up with anything else I was really excited about doing to celebrate my 1 year weight loss anniversary.
I'm not actually putting money aside for a new wardrobe as such...my motivation is knowing I'll be able to go shopping and look and feel great in clothes that I wouldn't get away with wearing at the moment.
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I know your're not supposed to reward yourself with food, but when I was still working, my lunch buddies used to order pizza every Friday. I made a rule that I could order pizza if I had lost 5 lbs since the last time. Then no more pizza until I lost another 5. That worked for me, and I kept that weight off for 10 years. Unfortunately, I got married and my lifestyle changed and here I am again. Now I CAN'T eat pizza because I'm diabetic.
