3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community  

Go Back   3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community > Support Forum > General chatter

General chatter Because life isn't just about dieting. Play games, jokes, or share what's new in your life!

Why is making fun of overweight...

Reply
 
Thread Tools
Old 12-22-2013, 11:03 PM   #1
Member
 
candykisses's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2013
Posts: 52

S/C/G: 219/ticker/118

Height: 5'5"

Default Why is making fun of overweight...

...people socially acceptable?

I went to see a movie with my son tonight, and it was an animated kid's movie and I counted at least 2 times where this was done. Once an overweight maid was introduced as someone who "eats her emotions" and another heavy child was called "Fatty" by his mother.

This is not ok.

Anytime an overweight woman is cast in a movie it's always in a self-deprecating type of way (Melissa McCarthy and Rebel Wilson come to mind) and Hollywood thinks it's ok because it's a lifestyle choice to be fat and people just lack self control, and if they had enough everyone could be a size 2.

If only it were that easy.

I see us making so much progress as a nation and yet this form of bullying still seems to be ok with most people.

I dunno. Maybe it's just me.
__________________
candykisses is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-23-2013, 12:22 AM   #2
Here to Learn
 
EagleRiverDee's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Alaska
Posts: 2,168

S/C/G: 225/See Ticker/125

Height: 5'5"

Default

I agree. It shouldn't be okay, and for some reason it is widely accepted and even encouraged. I routinely see fat shaming in comments on news articles, for example.
__________________


"A mistake is not failure but feedback. -Rod Gilbert"
EagleRiverDee is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-23-2013, 12:24 AM   #3
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Finland
Posts: 166

Height: 5'8"

Default

There are a lot of things in the American media that make me wonder when did this become acceptable and normal. All the oversexualized Disney stars for example, who seem to all mentally collapse before our eyes and nobody intervenes. Also, if you'd base your view on the American male on the sitcoms, you'd think that they were all lazy and incompetent with emotional capabilities of a child. I'm not even getting into the reality TV shows.

I honestly wouldn't expect any moral high ground from TV, movies or other aspects of the pop culture. I'm not sure if it actually reflects the reality of the society or if the society starts to accept the standards set by the media. I kind of hope it's neither and that people actually have their own moral compass and integrity.
SparklyBunny is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-23-2013, 09:01 AM   #4
Senior Member
 
Inkrid's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 242

Height: 5'9"

Default

In sitcoms and radio talk shows, everyone puts each other down, too! I was explain to DS that if I talked that way to anyone in RL:

1. There would be no witty comeback
2. They'd never speak to me again
3. They'd still be talking about it in the next "episode"
4. I would soon have no friends

Especially with fat comments! Sons said once, "I hate fat people" and I retorted, "You hate me??" That shut them up pretty fast.

They love watching old episodes of Sunny in Philadelphia, so wrong on so many levels. The world may never be the same.
Inkrid is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-23-2013, 10:51 AM   #5
Senior Member
 
pixelllate's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 1,164

Default

In my experience, I think that a lot of occasional "joking" about anyone's condition/background is deemed acceptable, but I tend to notice it more when its something that I can relate to. It is hurtful, but reminds me to be kind and open to others, especially when they point it out and I don't notice it at first.
__________________


I listened to my gut and it said "You could do with less of me."
pixelllate is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-23-2013, 11:52 AM   #6
Cat Cuddler
 
doingmybest's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: California
Posts: 571

S/C/G: 287/266/150

Height: 5'5"

Default

To me, this shows a serious lack of maturity and respect in our culture and this concerns me a great deal.

There seems to be a superficial dismissal of anyone that doesn't fit into the cultural ideal of being young, thin, rich, smart and beautiful. If someone is old, overweight, mentally or physically disabled, or poor, they are dismissed. There is entirely too much bullying, not just with kids in school, but I have seen it in corporations with adults. I am shocked at the lack of professional conduct in the workplace. I have also seen bullying (verbal and physical) in many families. It all boils down to a lack of respect.

I went to a fall craft fair and happened to hear some teenage boys talking very loudly.
They were looking at the women at the fair, many of whom were over 50 and overweight. The boys were commenting about and laughing at these women, who were minding their own business and trying to have fun at the fair. One kid said "it looks like we aren't going to find any hot girls here!" This really pissed me off. I said to the little jerks "quit being so disrespectful. These women are not here to entertain you!"

I am concerned about where this trend is going to take us in the future. What values are we reinforcing and how do we change this trend?
__________________




One for every 10 lbs.
doingmybest is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-23-2013, 12:58 PM   #7
go-go weight loss powers!
 
veggiedawg's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Eastern Ontario
Posts: 240

S/C/G: 190/167/140

Height: 5'3"

Default

I recently started watching the Wendy Williams show. I couldn't believe it when she was calling Ruben, from the Biggest Loser, a "fatso" or "fatty". Seriously? And no backlash?

Doingmybest, I applaud you for speaking up to those teens. I never have the right words and the right time!
veggiedawg is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-23-2013, 01:26 PM   #8
Senior Member
 
Dollfaise's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: New York
Posts: 111

Height: 5'3"

Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by SparklyBunny View Post
There are a lot of things in the American media that make me wonder when did this become acceptable and normal.
This was my exact reaction. There are a number of things that we accept as totally normal that shouldn't be.

I remember a large hullabaloo over Huge. OMG like everyone in that show is just so gross, it's so disgusting to watch, etc. We're glorifying being fat!!!!

But it's okay for me to watch shows and movies where the actresses are so thin it's near impossible for me to achieve that same figure? That's not glorifying anything?...

Last edited by Dollfaise : 12-23-2013 at 01:27 PM.
Dollfaise is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-23-2013, 01:30 PM   #9
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Finland
Posts: 166

Height: 5'8"

Default

I think that the way we speak about other people reveals much more about us than it does about other people. The way we see ourselves is always projected onto others.

Some time ago I was with this American man (though I'm not sure if his nationality matters in this case). He always had to have his body fat percentage below 10 and he was obsessive about exercising. We were in Florida and there was this large couple sitting in the next table at the hotel breakfast. He started nodding at their direction and telling me how he thought that they were so disgusting in his opinion. I was a bit upset, because I didn't think it was any of his business and I couldn't understand why it bothered him. Later I realized that it just revealed his own issues. I don't think he understands the concept of unconditional love and how a person can be beautiful, loved and deserving of respect regardless of their circumstances. His ego is convinced that he has to look ripped to be desirable and he's desperate to be loved and admired. Ironically, to feel truly loved, he would have to accept himself first as he is. Not just how his body looks like and what his achievements are, but who he truly is, warts and all.

I think everyone deserves to be treated with respect and kindness. Even those who spew hatred. Perhaps they even need it the most, because they clearly haven't experienced it. To react to hatred with hatred will just result in more hatred. Not saying it's easy, and I most definitely am not always living this way and can go from zero to ***** in 1.2 seconds, but I do believe that if we want to see more love and respect in our surroundings, we have to start with ourselves.
SparklyBunny is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-23-2013, 11:02 PM   #10
Warrior Princess
 
novangel's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Illinois
Posts: 3,048

S/C/G: 155+/143/138

Height: 5' 5.5"

Default

Fat jokes aren't new. I'm not saying it's nice but it isn't anything that hasn't been going on in movies/tv since forever. Ever watch the Honeymooners?

People make skinny b**** comments all the time too. I never let any of it get to me and I have been on both sides of the coin, fat and thin. There will always be something people will make jokes about. You have to be thick-skinned in this world otherwise everything will offend you.
__________________





novangel is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-27-2013, 12:42 PM   #11
Chubby Chick
 
helwa588's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Philly
Posts: 319

S/C/G: see ticker

Height: 5,4

Default

Fat people have been made fun of for decades. It's wrong but honestly it doesn't bother me anymore. Some fat jokes can be funny. Others are just poor taste.
__________________
Short Term Goal:



helwa588 is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply
Posts by members, moderators and admins are not considered medical advice
and no guarantee is made against accuracy.


Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Does it bother you when people make fun of "fat" people? grneyedmustang General chatter 63 02-20-2012 08:28 AM
Food pushers and being made fun of... danzingurl77 Featherweights 19 01-12-2012 12:37 AM
why is it so hard to lose weight? Sophiyya Weight Loss Support 23 04-09-2011 09:38 PM
Trying to Lose Weight in College is NO FUN! thecanadian213 Introductions 16 05-19-2006 01:39 AM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 12:39 PM.






Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.6.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2015, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.3.2