I live in an apartment building, and we had a 3 people (1 married couple + their friend(?)) move in next door a couple of weeks ago. We are all of similar ages (I'm 29, and they are probably in their 30s), and graduate students (they might be a post-doc fellow, PhD candidate or something). Since that time, I have realized they are SUPER loud. The walls are also thin, but they are truly just really loud.
Unfortunately, my bedroom shares a wall with their apartment. Every single morning, since they have moved in, I have gotten woken up by them. I am not too light a sleeper, since I apparently sleep through all the other ruckus in my neighbourhood (people screaming at 2am in the morning, etc.). However, there is one guy of the 3 who, when he speaks, sounds like he's yelling. I assume he is not because his voice does not sound hostile and sometimes sounds friendly. However, it is loud enough that were their conversations in English, I'd be able to make half of the words out. He is really my main concern. I can hear the other 2 on occasion, but that's to be expected, right?
I was hoping to try to get used to it, but I think I'd like to deal with it; it's taken a toll on me. I'm tired (physically and impatiently) with getting woken up by the same voice of some dude practically yelling. As a result, I sleep until 10:30 to make up for lost sleep, wake up late, lose hours in my day and walk around tired. I'm one of those people who needs their sleep, so this is not healthy for me.
I know an option might be earplugs, and I'm willing to try that, but I'd hate to have to put something in my ears every night simply because someone uses an "outdoor" voice indoors. Plus, I have fluid in my ear right now from a respiratory infection, so I'm not sure earplugs are a good idea at the moment and I want to sleep restfully.
So I'd like to approach him about it, but I am a chicken when it comes to confrontation. I'm also not naturally tactful, and am afraid that in a stressful moment, I will end up being blunt, rude, or defensive/aggressive... none of which I want to happen.
I've seen folks here offer great advice, and I'm hoping to ask if anyone has ideas or recommendations on how to approach this, or what I could say? Would it be beneficial to somehow mention that it's just the 1 loud voice that's bothersome (in case he doesn't realize how loud he is)? Is there a way of doing that without being super rude?
Thank you so much.