I totally agree with everything you said, especially the last paragraph:
It's time for me to put a lot more focus on things I actually want to achieve, beyond losing weight. Losing weight is not a legacy to leave to my children. Losing weight does not define who I am. Healthy and vibrant are terms by which I choose to be defined. Fun-loving and spirited. Grounded and spiritual. Loving and warm.
I do want to point out one thing however. We all like to think of ourselves as perhaps the exception. Same with smokers...I won't get lung cancer....But I think that is very dangerous with both smoking and weight.
Vibrant, happy, loving all of those YES. And bravo. But healthy? I know I was going down a bad road at 280. I am not unique. I was probably heading for diabetes, heart disease, I already had bordeline bad bloodwork. I could say spiritually I was good but I could not say I was healthy.
And now closing in on 250 and I would like at least 50 more after that, the increase in my health has been tremendous. I run now. Doing a C25K. I move so much easier. I am a lot stronger. I can't imagine having lost 30 how awesome it feels to how losing 50 more would.
But I know I am not healthy at 250, Or at least as healthy as I want to be. I have to keep going. I am sorry I wish we could say we were healthy as in body health, not mind health, not spouse, family, kids, friend health but body health at any weight. I just do not think that is true.