Was I too serious about his remark?
Since early November I have been chatting online with a fellow from Scotland. I live in Canada (obviously). We have become somewhat close through our online chats and emails and enjoy talking to each other a few times a week. We are both in our 50s and single.
We were chatting the other day on Facebook and I asked him if he had seen this neighbourhood cat that he likes and feeds when he sees her. He said he had not seen her for roughly 10 days so I then said....
1) Maybe her owners were keeping her in.
2) Perhaps she had a procedure done at the vets (such as getting fixed) and now had to wear a cone so her owners were keeping her in until she heals.
3) Maybe the owners moved and took her with them.
Perfectly valid reasons for him not seeing her so I thought.
Then he says......
"When in the h ell did you turn into Miss Doom and Gloom 2013?"
His remark took me by surprise and did hurt my feelings a little. I could not and did not want to continue the conversation at that point so I told him I needed a few minutes, he said take as much time as I need and then I shut the laptop down for the day.
The next morning I emailed him and told him this.......
" I don't know how to put this but when you said that to me it did hurt my feelings.
What I said about Kitty being kept inside, moving away or having a procedure at the vet's was not meant to sound negative and that was not how I meant them when I said them. I thought they were pretty valid reasons why you might not have seen her for as long as you did. They were just as valid as the reasons you came up with yourself.
What I didn't expect from you was to be called Miss Doom and Gloom 2013. I tried to continue talking to you after that but I could not so I had to go. It just killed any desire that I had to continue that conversation right then and there. I know afterwards you said that you were kidding but if you were kidding then why say something like that at all?
Yes, it hurt my feelings. Yes, it made me a little bit angry. Yes, I will get over it. Yes, I will still talk to you in the future because I enjoy talking to you....and I just don't know what else to say. "
Today I got this response........
Jaime, you’ve taken that remark way too seriously…"
Now I ask.....
Did I take his remark way too seriously?
I have not contacted him yet nor do I plan to until I figure this out.