I messaged someone on a dating site about a week ago and got a response. We talked a little and then he gave me his number and said to text him. Since then, we've been texting pretty regularly and even spent most of two or three nights doing nothing but talking. I said good morning to him two days in a row and then the next two he said good morning to me which I thought was really sweet of him.
He opened up to me and I found myself really attracted to him. We met yesterday under not quite ideal circumstances but the impression I have of him is that he's a nice, genuine, intelligent, sweet guy. He's so soft-spoken and gentle and I love that about him. We met because I offered to give him a hand with something - he didn't ask but I wanted to so he reluctantly accepted. I let him know I was a little nervous and he insisted that he's a quiet, reserved person and he had no intention of taking off afterward so I took a chance.
We were supposed to go to a festival today but I was never able to lock in any sure plans for when we'd go, if at all. He was in a wreck recently so he has no car, he just started a new job and has work from 2:00 to 8:00, and he's in kind of a rough spot. He has anxiety so I imagine he's nervous a good portion of the time so I'm trying to be considerate since I have anxiety myself. The thing is, the last guy I tried to get involved with brushed me off a lot so now I'm afraid this guy is doing the same thing. He has said, numerous times, that he doesn't like excluding people because he knows how it feels so I keep telling myself that the two aren't the same, they're different people. But I'm still scared and upset and I feel like the problem is me at times.
I didn't want him to think that I'm pitching a fit over the festival so I said good morning just like any other day. I figure since he has work at 2:00, he'll be up by 12:00 or 12:30, depending on how he slept last night (he has trouble sleeping), but I'm still scared I won't hear from him again. It feels like I've been rejected so many times this past year, sometimes I feel like giving up and my anxiety just keeps flaring up over the uncertainty of it all.
Do you think he's just in a tough spot right now and is struggling? Or do you think he's backing off after we met?