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Old 04-28-2012, 06:08 AM   #1
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Hi ladies, I need some opinions on this text message.

My husband has a single female co-worker who he has worked with for years, sent him a thank you text message (it was something he took to work and gave a few people, male and female) and at the end of the text message she put love u, how would that make you feel being his wife, if it was your husband? Would you think this was inappropriate and disrespectful to your marriage? I only saw the text because he was unable to answer his text so I did, otherwise than that I would have NEVER known about this text message in detail. How would you have handled it?

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Old 04-28-2012, 09:29 AM   #2
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why not ask him about it? That is the only way you will know the truth, instead of speculating about what it could mean. I know I would be wondering too. I'd be upset and mad. Some women use those words as by-words, It doens't really mean 'love' anymore. It could be that she is being flirtateous but he is not accepting it.
Be honest with how you feel, let him know it hurt you to see that.
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Totally inappropriate on her part. I would mention it to him but of course he is not responsible for what she says.
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Oh wow, that's very unprofessional. I am thinking this girl just isn't the brightest light bulb in the pack...you can always ask your dh about it though. I bet she's some ditz that really doesn't know how inappropriate her communications are...
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Thanks so far, I just wanted to know if me getting upset and mad was just me or would any other wife feel the same. Yes I agree it was very inappropriate and I think it crosses some boundaries. I don't get some women these days. I don't think they really care about if a man is married or not.
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Could be totally harmless, especially if they're close friends and very comfortable with each other, but still very inappropriate on her part.
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We have a wonderful person at work who is very...expressive. It's just the way she is. When I read this I thought it's just the kind of thing she would say and it wouldn't mean anything. I'd suggest talking to her husband. There could be a motive or she could just be like "our Kate."
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Um...she is not married, she is a single lady.
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Married men do not need to receive non-work related messages from single women at work. Ever.
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Sacha I agree with you 100%. When I worked I NEVER had a male co-workers number or gave my cell number to a male. Just like I said marriages are not shown any respect now-a-days. Women don't care and they think it's harmless. I bet if she were married and someone texted her man and said love u she would be upset too. You walk a fine line when it comes to marriages.
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Married men do not need to receive non-work related messages from single women at work. Ever.
Agreed. I would not like that at all and I personally would NEVER text my male co-workers with anything not work related or anything unprofessional.

All you can do is ask your husband. You can kinda gauge the situation from his reaction also.

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Yeah I'd definitely ask about it although it's probably nothing. Just try to do it in a non confrontational way - you were reading the texts on his phone, which is somewhat of a privacy invasion which he may or may not be weird about.

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Ok, I know I didn't explain it all in detail but he was driving and I answered them for him, he was right beside me, yes and I confronted him, I just wanted to know if it would bother any other women.
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Plus if a man has a problem with a wife messing with his phone then there is definately something fishy going on. A marriage is to be open and honest.
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I tell my friends I love them all the time. My Best Friend is Male and I tell him I love him. I am married, he is single. I don't see the problem. If I love someone I am going to let them know I care about them. I let all my loved ones know I care about them. Love has many different meanings and can be expressed in so many different ways.

It can be con-strewed as something different though by people who aren't as expressive about their feelings towards the people they love and it can be difficult to understand.

My Single friend has a girlfriend now and she read some of his old texts. She's been jealous of me for a year now and thinks we have an inappropriate relationship. She simply does not understand I am a caring, expressive kind of person. I hug people, I kiss people on the cheeks, I buy gifts for my friends if I see something I think they will like. I haven't been able to hang out and really talk to my friend until just recently when he has finally got it through her thick head that we are just friends and I just wear my heart on my sleeve.

Just ask him about it, I am sure she is just a heart on her sleeve kind of girl and cares about your hubby as a friend.
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