Tricky sitch between friend/business/SO
(not very) Short story: My board president ignored me during a very important point during a lunch meeting to get the salt. In the middle of my sentence, he asked the person next to him, who had to ask the person next to her, to pass the salt. 3 out of the 4 others were engaged in getting him salt rather than listen to my point which would reduce the meeting time by 20 minutes at least.
Then, in another meeting the same day, the board president asked a fricking stupid question that he should have came to the meeting prepared and already know the anwer to. During the other's address of the q, the former board pres and I whispered to one another getting other business that was assigned to us done. Current board pres yelled at me. This happened four times when former pres asked me Qs or was in between us, taking care of other business that the board assigned to us. The current pres NEVER said the other's name when yelling, just mine. He even said, "Fitness4life, if you continue to be rude and not pay attention, I don't see why you are here".
Later that same day, my CEO who was at the meeting, asked me if I was OK with the way the pres treated me. I'm not really OK with it, but I'm far, far far away from making an issue out of it. So i told CEO to drop it.
Next day, my SO said something to the Pres of the board, trying to make light of the situation without my knowledge, and pres got mad and stormed out.
EEeek! What would you do?
My SO and I have a friend much older than us. We have only been friends for 18 months. We love him and his wife. He's retired and because of our friendship, he joined the board of our business. SO and I are also at board meetings. This friend is the above named president of the board.
I know D (the friend) likes my SO much better than me. They have a lot in common. I have noticed that D treats me differently when SO isn't there. Then again, one thing I know about myself is that I can get upset about stuff that really isn't there. I've made it a point to improve that by letting things go more than I'm comfy with. It all works out fine.
I don't know if this is one of those times where I really should be upset or if it's just me feeling the sting more than I should.
My SO is so pissed. I told him if he wanted to say something to D, that it should be said that SO is pissed, not me, just to leave me out of it. SO will NOT tolerate the mistreatment of me. That's why I love him. One of the many reasons. So I'm not mad as SO.
But now I don't know what to do? Should I say something else to D? To CEO? So far, I told CEO that D was pissed but my plan was to just drop it. They're all men. Men tend to not hold grudges. I'm thinking but Monday, all will be totally fine.