So I thought I would just let some steam because I am feeling very indifferent and sad today.
So hubby and I have been together for almost 9 years married since October, and right now we are both in a bad place. Of course it has to do with money. He has never been the brightest tool in the shed aside from a few years ago with his money. He would spend it left and right, rack up his credit cards, than his grandpa would pay them off for him because he had too much debt and than he would start the cycle all over again.
Fast forward a few years to where we are now. He is a journeymen plumber/gas fitter, I am working in HR, we bought a house almost 2 years ago, have 2 fur babies, and we should be doing well for ourselves but he once again has racked his debt up, and is now paying for it. Always stressed about bills on his end, I had to co-sign another consolidated loan for him to help ease his debt troubles because that’s what we do when were married right? I give him what I can each paycheck to try and help as well.
Anyways I will stop blabbering on and on, in a nutshell he is such a good person, he means well, and tries to help everyone out when he can, he is always at his grandpas helping him out (partly to help repay his debt, his gramps doesn’t expect him to pay him back as he is already very well off) and he is such a genuine person.
Here is the issue.
He might be going up north which would be a 2 week on and 1 week off rotation. BUT he would be clearing $10,000.00 a month and be able to pay his debt off within a year and than have money left over after to have a comfort zone. No more stress, although I know it would be hard being away so long, but in the long run we will be fine
The other issue is that his friend is offering him a nightclub photography position making up to $800.00 a month. My hubby has a photo business on the side and he loves photography so much but it doesn’t pay the bills (at all) his argument for wanting to take this job over the other one is that “he will be furthering his career in photography” but he will still be struggling and his debt won’t be paid off for years.
I know photography makes him happy but why can’t he put it on hold and take care of his issues? Am I being a bad wife for pleading with him to take the job up north??
Need some advice please!!!! I feel like the bad wife. We have been arguing so much lately over money issues because of his debt and it will just keep getting worse especially if he takes this photography job.