Stress/News

LilButterflyWings · 12-23-2011, 01:53 PM

So I have pushed back my whole plan. I will be starting on the 1st of the new year. I know I shouldn't push it off, but life throws so many things at you. Also, hoping my husband gets on board with most of the things I want to change (like not eating sugar-at least not all the time-he craves chocolate at times lol).

So the thing that was thrown at us recently has to do with his grandmother. She is the 'head' of his mom's family basically. She's almost 80, completely there mentally, drives and does everything herself still. Last year she had to have surgery to remove a large tumor. The cancer ended up being in a few spots, which they got to remove at the time, but it was still stage 4 cancer. She was told that she could do chemo and radiation (years ago my mom had stage 3 cancer....did chemo/radiation/surgery and the cancer came back stage 4 and she died

at age 47..). She opted not to. She did natural things to help. The cancer was gone, the doctors said.

So fast forward to now. The other night she had a hard time urinating and when she couldn't at all she went to the ER. They had to put a catheter in. They found an egg sized mass pushing on her bladder. Could be the cancer again. They told her that they can't do surgery because of where it is. It could puncture the bladder and kill her. She has to do radiation in the hopes to shrink it.

So we're been dealing with this news and with the holidays...it's just crazy right now.

dragonwoman64 · 12-23-2011, 02:01 PM

how awful. I'm wishing the best for you and your family.

LilButterflyWings · 12-23-2011, 02:20 PM

Thanks, dragonwoman64

Unna · 12-23-2011, 02:47 PM

Oh no - that is really stressful, esp. this time of the year. It sounds like she's a tough lady that a lot of people care about.

bargoo · 12-23-2011, 02:51 PM

Praying for your grandmother at that they will be able to shrink the mass.

LilButterflyWings · 12-23-2011, 03:09 PM

Thanks, Unna & bargoo

rainydays · 12-23-2011, 07:49 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this. I lost my grandma in May to congestive heart failure. I still deal with it daily. I hope the radiation is successful for your husband's grandmother!

LilButterflyWings · 12-29-2011, 01:23 PM

Thanks, rainydays

LilButterflyWings · 12-29-2011, 01:26 PM

So unsure what is going to happen. There is just talk right now about what to do. I think it's ultimately her decision but my husband's mom is not wanting her to do radiation. His grandma is like 'I'm sorry to put you all through this'.

Over Christmas when the family sat together after opening a few small gifts...we all had a talk and I was aparently the 'expert' considering my mom had gone through this kind of stuff. It was so hard to talk about it all. I barely hit the surface of what I went through with my mom though. I mean I did emphasize that my mom was younger (47 when she died) and that it is different for everyone...and husband's grandma is in her late 70s. *shrug* I'm sure there will be more talk before a plan is made.

rainydays · 12-29-2011, 04:13 PM

Such a terrible time of year to have to deal with this.

MissGuided · 12-31-2011, 04:40 PM

All you can do is be there & comfort them through this time.

KimL1214 · 12-31-2011, 04:50 PM

ArtyKay · 01-01-2012, 03:45 AM

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

LilButterflyWings · 01-03-2012, 04:41 PM

Thanks, rainydays, MissGuided, KimL1214, and ArtyKay.

Husband's grandma is being positive and has decided not to do radiation. She has given up sugar, wheat, etc. She is seeing various doctors (one being a natural type). We're all hoping she will be able to live longer and be healthy.

rainydays · 01-03-2012, 08:59 PM

Glad she's being positive, that really does make a difference. Keep us updated!