I have posted somewhere on here before that my boss (who is leaving because she got the job I was 90% SURE was mine ), has been in trouble in the past for having an inappropriate relationship with someone who works for her. He got transferred. Then fired. Then rehired back where I work, then fired again.
No one knows how far the "relationship" went, but my boss has a live in bf, and the coworker is married. The firing revolves around an incident where the coworker had his wife on speaker phone and the boss was there listening and the two were hurtfully making fun of the wife (but the wife didn't know it).
This boss is extremely flirty with my bf, who also works there. Our staff has gone from 4 women and 1 man to one woman (me) and 4 men in her tenure. All of the men are extremely attractive, 3 are single yet she flirts with my bf the most. Maybe I'm more sensitive to that, but I try to be objective and here's what I observe: When he and I come into work together, she smiles and says Hi to him and grimly says "Hey" to me. She texts and calls my bf about work stuff several times a day, yet even though I have been there 2.7 years longer than she (and 2.5 years longer than he) she almost never calls me. She asks my bf if I could work at certain times but doesn't call me to ask me. When my bf asked me for a piece of gum, she quickly got out her gum and gave him a piece of hers with no acknowledgement that he was addressing his request to me. She keeps him after work to talk to him for an hour or more. She comes in to work out only when he's staffing the gym. When he opens, she's there. When I open, she comes in on his later shift.
Am I being paranoid?
My bf and I have had two disagreements in our 15 month relationship. Both of them have been about our boss and the above topic. I trust him and that wasn't the issue of both disagreements. My opinion over-all is that she is unprofessional. His opinion is that she does a great job and he assumes I hate her.
I don't hate her! She fun, funny, complimentive to me but almost in a way that exudes jealousy. Like, she said to me recently, "You're so fit, you should be one of those models in the fitness magazines for fit moms in their forties" with a laugh. She's 26. I get those remarks every now and then. Sometimes they're genuine and nice, sometimes you can tell they're back handed.
When I'm at the gym, working or working out, I feel she loathes my presense. If she talks to me at all, it will be either that my bf is there, too, or she'll ask me about my bf. I've even heard that she asks my bf Qs about me but in the form of, "Has the flame died down yet or is the relationship still hot?"
I have 2 more months with this situation before she leaves. I know I just have to suck it up and it'll be over soon. This is the ONLY area in my life where my bf isn't 100% behind me. If I have any sort of issue with anyone, he'll ALWAYS see my side. With her, he ALWAYS defends HER!
I just needed to vent!