So my future sister inlaw is pregnant, and because she threw my baby shower for me ( I have no family here) I really wanted to reciprocate and throw her one. I asked her if it was alright if I threw the party and she said yes. Their mother later decided that she would like to be the one to throw the party, fine whatever she's her mother, so we decided that we could do it together.
I got a phone call from my FMIL sometime last week, TELLING me, not seeing what I thought or anything, what the Date and Time would be, and that it would be at her house. Ok fine, their house is bigger and she is a nurse with a busy schedual, I didn't complain about being left out of that planning.
When I was in highschool my last year consisted of going to the local college and doing the culinary arts course to get my credits, and bake shop was my absolute favorite, which she should know if she ever paid attention to anything I ever say to her. I also and always volunteering to bring desserts to family gatherings (but I somehow always get looked over).
I thought I would do the shower cake, because my FMIL isn't really a cake maker, I love doing them, and she hadn't talked to me about anything else for the shower. The shower is still over a month away, so imagine my surprise when I showed her the cake I was going to make when we were down on mothers day, and she informed me that she had already asked her coworkers daughter to make the cake for the shower
She told me that the cake I wanted to make was cute, and that she would just tell the girl that I was going to make it, still a month away so It's all good. I thought everything was a go for the cake and I went out and bought my cake pan for it and everything.
Well this morning I checked my email and I have one from her saying that she just can't cancell on the other girl, she's really excited about making the cake, my FMIL is even paying her for it, and the girl is really into baking. So I can just help out with some of the decorations.
I feel bad for the girl to, my FMIL jumped the gun with out even asking me, or considering my feeling, what am I chopped liver.
And that's just the lastest in the string of things,
-the day after we told them they were going to be grandparents, she came to my house when she knew my FH (future husband) woudnt be here and asked if I was going to keep the baby?
-whenever she referes to my I'm her sons girlfriend, never the fiance whos been with him fo oh say 6 years!
-She never tells us about family things untill the day before.
-She doesnt know anything about me, 6 years and she didn't even know it was my birthday last week
So what do you think am I just being TOO sensitive, or is she really being a *bleep* and treating me like im just some girl shacking up with her son instead of her future daughter inlaw?